i despirately want to spend as much time with my future children as possible, but i also want to provide them with a stable and secure upbringing. My head says remain at work full time my heart says dont! Also i am a health visitor so it may be difficulat to be surrounded by other peoples children all day. what will people think of me?

Is there anyone else out there in this situation, who has a full time house husband. Anyones experiences would be very welcome.

Hammie

Welcome to the group..

I'm a house husband.. although I do use part-time childcare to help manage my life. We are in exactly the same situation as you. My wife has a good career which she didn't want to lose and also earns more than me. Our solution was for me to stay at home and her keep her job. In reality what this has meant is that I work from home, use a part-time childminder two afternoons per week and we have a house-cleaner.

It has worked out really well and everyone has benefited. I would recommend it although I have to say that not all men would like or be able to adapt to living this kind of life and being in a female environment all the time. Having a baby is definitely a female world and I am the only man who goes to the various activities that I do with Victoria.

So.. don't discount the option. We make it work for us and it is great. Maybe you can make it work for you too.

Keep us informed of your plans.

All the best,

Dunks xx

My husband stays at home all day to look after DD and has done so since she was about a year - she's now 3 and a half. He works at night and has negotiated reasonable hours. Like you, I earn more than he does so, much as I would like to give up work, it would just be silly for me. I think it does take a lot of the worry off being a working mum - if DD is sick or has an appointment I don't have to leave work. At the moment it suits us, especially as I see a lot of DD as she goes to bed late (and gets up late) but I know that will have to change when she goes back to school.

It's a good arangement if you are both happy with it and DH doesn't feel he is second best because he isn't pursuing a career. DH doesn't do any housework though - just childcare!! (If he didn't go out to work too, I would expect some housework)

love moss xxx

i think that house husbands is going to be the best way forward for us. I must admit i'm a bit worried about what people will think of me, leaving my children and going out to work, but i know that i have to work out the best thing for my family. At least, as you pointed out Moss, if my child is sick she will be cared for by her dad.

I'll keep you posted, as i said in my last post we're still ttc so its early days, but i want to have some ideas as to how we will manage our childcare and finances.

Thanks again

Love Hammie

It's now been a couple of weeks since you raised the question.. how are things now? Has the conversation with the husband moved on at all? Obviously early days yet..

Dunks xx