HI

I have not been on this board for sometime but i dont know who else to turn too....

I returned to SW after being on WW for about 16 weeks and i lost a stone. I missed the old way or eating and i missed SW plan.

I have STS same over the past 9 weeks and i feel totally out of control. Every time i come out of a meeting i have been thinking this week is the week... i draw a BIG BLACK line under the week gone, then i just dont stick to it. I complete the food diary until it gets to about Friday then it just goes out of the window.

I have recently started a new job also in the past 5 weeks and the office is just full of people who eat whatever they want and when i say no to nice treats they all laugh at me and tell me to stop being stupid. I take my lunch in wiht me but they are all eating sausage rolls and crisps and burgers etc.  I desperately want a stone off by xmas but i justy feel totally out of control. I am sooooo depressed about my weight and lack of self control.  I cant sleep hence why im on here at 7.22am after a 5 hours journey from london to sunderland to see my parents. I cry alot recently too... i do suffer from SAD and my diet is just making me more sluggish and tired, emotional

I have a birthday thing on tonight for my brother and i really want to enjoy myself but i feel i cant... due to being fat and miserable.  All my family are slim and will be wearing nice dresses and looking all glam and i will feel like a big fat blob.................... please someone help me!  im sorry for the length of this post

A very emotional and distressed Dani xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Dani

Sending you a big virtual hug, it sounds like you are having a really rough time just now. You sound low, have you thought about seeing your GP just to check that out?

With SW do you stay to group? That may help. Also find that in these dark winter days getting out for some fresh air and daylight really helps to give a boost, a brisk walk is all it takes.

You need to think through why you joined SW in the first place. Make a list for and against, think about how not sticking to the plan properly is making you feel. Take it one day at a time and make sure you don't feel deprived, have your healthy extras, lots of free food and your 15 syns. We both know that the plan works when we follow it 100%, it just takes a bit of planning and determination.

Those new work mates sound horrid! I know it's hard in a new job but if you stick to your guns they will soon get bored of the snide remarks and leave you alone. Just think how good eating healthy food makes you feel as compared to eating junk.

Hope you have a lovely weekend

Hugs

Hi Skygirl

Thankyou for your kind words and i know your right. I have started at the gym but im finding it hard to get to after a day at work...... im going to try harder... i have a personal trainer i see once a month... i do feel really low and i think i will go and see my doctor.

The plan does work i started on the 27th nov 2007 and by xmas that year i had lost a stone!  im going to stick to it today and until i get weighed properly!  with no cheating

one day at a time sounds good

Thank you so much

)))))))))))hugs((((((((((( dani xxx

Hey there Dani,

Sorry to hear your feeling so low and down at the moment, well done on your weight loss and coming back to SW! I really feel for you hin because all the things you say about the way you feel I have also been there, had people make comments about my weight and all sorts and yes it does get you down and it is like a vicious circle! The more you want it the further it seems away and then you think whats the point I give up!!

Parties and scail events are a nightmare becasue you never find anything nice to wear and end up feeling very self concious! So here is what I can suggest, make this weekend the last that you ever going to feel this way, visualise yourself a thinner happier glam puss and imagine everyones reactions when you have lost weight at the next occasion! You will look and feel amazing, by following SW alone and healthy eating you will start to feel better anyway. Surround yourself with positive happy people who will support your journey not mock it and remeber those who try to bring you down arent worth it! It will be you thats laughing when you emerge as the the new healthier you and they will eventually be piling on the pounds themselves!!

Also make a weeks plan of your meals, shop for them and stick to them, find a hobby or something you enjoy to occupy your mind when the dark clouds start to creep in! Or call a friend and have a moan instead of giving up and one day at a time hon really, dont be too hard on yourself if you have a slip pick yourself up brush yourself off and start again, no real harm done! Then be proud of all you have achieved, you will get there!

Good luck, you'll do it! Hope this helps and doesnt tell you a million things you already know. Take care.xx

Hi Helen

Thanks for the good sound advice... at least i know im not going mad..... i am going to start from today, i am looking at good comfort food green day receipes that will help me get throught this... i just need to do one day at a time.... one meal time at a time.

Thank you for your kind words.... think its the kick up the bum i need to get back on track.

))))))))))))hugs and a BIG thank you(((((((((((((((((((((((((

Dani xxxx