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Message #:615.1
From:herts_lady  Member Icon
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Date:5-Nov 18:11
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Message: No1 will help me with this situation I am living in. My mother's husband is an alcoholic and I can't stand living here any longer in this situation. Last night I pulled a knife out and was going to hurt her instead I sliced all his shirts up. He has been arrested 3 times for drink driving but still the police don't care all they done is taken away his license it doesnt help matters here. I am on council waiting list but getting no where. I am going to go doctors with my care support worker to say on medical grounds this household is making me ill. This evening I am also going to a support group for people that put up with alcoholics in their lifes so maybe they will guide me how to deal with this crisis better. My mothers husband attended one AA meeting this week but I doubt it will be beneficial. For a few days his fine sober and the next his drunk and shouting his mouth off.
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From:cl-zannie  Member Icon
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Date:6-Nov 16:24
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Hello Herts_Lady

Welcome to the board.

Sorry to read of your very difficult situation right now.It does sound quite serious.Is there anyone else you can stay with for a few days?

I'd also arrange that GP visit as soon as possible.Your council should move you up on the list as you would be higher priority I presume?

How did you get on at the support group? There are a few posters at the moment who live or who are dealing with an alcoholic in their lives so please stick arround for more support should you want it  xx

                               Love Zannie xx

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Message #:615.3 in response to 615.1
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Date:7-Nov 10:34
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Hello there

I know you are very upset and angry with the situation, but I don't think no-one will help or is helping you. It sounds as if your care support worker has the right idea about going to your doctor. If things have got so bad for you that you are considering violent action towards your mother's husband, then you are doing all the right things by enlisting the help of them and of al-anon (or whichever support group you ar going to)

Offloading here also helps sometimes when you feel that you are at the end of your tether and while we may not be able to change your situation practically it sometimes can help to know that you're not alone.

The fact that you felt driven to such drastic action with the knife, does worry me a great deal so please make sure you tell your care worker about it. NOthin can ever be solved by violence, though so please please tell your GP and your health worker, how serious this is for you.

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Message #:615.4 in response to 615.3
From:herts_lady  Member Icon
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Date:7-Nov 12:27
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The meeting I attended was al-non the way the group was talking to me about my situation it's as if I am trying in vain to stop his drinking although it's a disease which only he can stop himself. I have become obsessed with it now I check to make sure there is no alcohol brought into the house, I constantly say no drink. This should be my mother saying this to him not me. We are all living on our nerves here.

I have an appointment next week at the council so I am going to say my bit and probably lose my temper if nothing gets done. My own relationship with my partner is suffering because of all this upset. My head feels like it's going to explode. I don't have many people who will put me up plus its not the same being without my belongings.

I do worry that if I eventually get a place of my own how will things be here without me to keep eye on situation

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Message #:615.5 in response to 615.4
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Date:9-Nov 17:52
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Message: Hi,
I know you worry about how things will be without you there, but you must remember that you cannot babysit your dad, he is responsible for his own actions, not you. No one can take that responsibility for him. I felt very responsible for my brother when he lived with us, and after he moved out I had to learn to let him get on with life, he is doing well now and rarely drinks. Same goes for my mum, she feels she has to babysit my other brother who has big problems and is dependant on the booze daily and binges sometimes too. He has a flat of his own and he usually drinks way too much when he is there, she is struggling to understand she can't babysit him all her life cos she is his mum!
Once you have accepted that fact though you do become calmer.

Butterfly    Red

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