i have jus found this board.

Can anyone tell me how to deal with loneliness. i am a happily married woman, but i am so lonely all the time. i have suffered from depression for the past three years, mainly due to infertilty issues,but i cant share it with my family because my father is a manic depressive who is sectioned at t the moment, and i am having to support my mother and 3 sisters,

i would be really grateful for any ideas,

Wilma

Welcome to the board.

I am sorry you are having to deal with loneliness its not a nice feeling is it. I sometimes feel very lonely, I have no family around me, so miss the comfort of a mum, or sister. I am so sorry you feel unable to talk to your family about your infertilty issues, have you got some friends you could speak to about these issues, or have you tried asking who ever is looking after you for your infertilty issues if there is a support group or even a counsellor you could talk to about how you are feeling. It must be very hard for you all coping with your father being in Hospital. I am sure your mother and sisters must be very grateful for all the support and help you are giving them at this time, but you do need to look after yourself as well Wilma. I don't have contact with my family because my father sexually abused me and my childhood was never nice before this happened anyway. I felt very lonely at Christmas because of this and spent alot of the time crying my eyes out.

I hope things improve for you very soon Wilma.

Keep on talking to us, we are all very supportive, helpful people on this board.

Take care.

Love and Hugs

Tracey-Ann
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thank you for your reply, i too was sexually abused as a child and that is one of the causes of the depression, it makes me feel very alienated becayse none of my family know. it is really tough we moved to where we are now from were i had lived all my life and i have struggled to meet people, espicailly now that i am suffering from depression because i cant go out on my own.

take care and i hope to speak to you soon

Wilma

The only thing I can think of to help with feeling lonely is to find a way to think of something else. For people like us who get depressed and are more sensitive I think, the best thing of all is to find something where you are of value to others.

Perhaps you could volunteer for something. You don't have to be in the front line you can do things for organisations where you are behind the scenes. I don't know, but there might even be something you can do from home.

I think that you would feel better if you could help someone. There used to be a need for hospital visitors for people in hospital who had no-one to visit them. Perhaps this might suit you. The people would be very pleased to see you and all you would need to do is listen most of the time.

Let us know what you decide to do. It goes without saying that you are more than welcome to come and join us here anytime. You will always find kindly welcoming folk here.

Til later
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Welcome to the board hun, I am really sorry to hear about your troubles.

They say that depression is the "Lonely Illness" , but it doesn't have to be, as now you have found this board, which is full of people who feel as you do, me included, I have a loving family, friends and boyfriend around me, but no matter how many people are there I still feel very alone, as though no-one understands me.

You must be feeling worn out supporting your family, must take a great deal of emotional strength to do it.

This may seem lame, but you don't have to feel so alone anymore, as this board is a real god send and as you become more familuar with it, you will see what I mean,

(((((HUGS)))))))

takecare hun,
love pixie xxxx