I’ve posted here quite a few times regarding my depression, which I know is not helped by being unemployed.

Anyway I went to an interview today, and needless to say I don’t think it went well.  I am now feeling so despondent. 

I also applied for another job – which was really perfect for me - whereby I got a telephone call yesterday saying that they would let me know if I got an interview, probably today.  Anyway no one called so I sent an email this afternoon basically asking if the shortlisting had been done and reiterating my interest in the post. The email I got back was a little rude and now I think that I have jeopardized even getting an interview! Do you think I was wrong to email? I think I may have looked really desperate. Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this but it really is making me quite sick and very, very depressed.

Thanks

Hi Suzie

I wouldn't feel bad about sending the email. At least they know that you are interested in the job and I don't think it looks desperate at all. Maybe the person sending the email was busy and the tone of the email wasn't quite what it should have been.

I would leave it a couple of days and then if you hear nothing make contact again. If you are unsuccessful I'd ask for some feedback on your application. If it's a job I really want I always ask for feedback so that I can build on what they tell me.

I'm sure that a job will come along for you. My friend is in a similar position at the moment and she's feeling pretty demotivated, but I keep telling her that it's not the job for her if she's unsuccessful. It may not help, but I believe that the right job will come along for her too.

I hope that this has helped in some way.

Take care,
Pxx

Hi Suzie,
I always think it's a bad time to start a job just before Christmas as it can mean you still don't get money due to possibly having to work for a while before you get paid and it doesn't leave you time to buy stuff before the big day and then you've also got to contend with all the new people at work, maybe buying them gifts and feeling left out coz they'll all have known each other longer etc.

Much better to start afresh in the new year and treat any interviews now as practice.

I don't think you were wrong to email at all. I think it sounds like they are busy and to be honest if they are rude like that then you have to question how good a place it is to work for and may explain why they have a vacancy so close to Christmas as most people hang onto their jobs in order to get the money in.

There are no right or wrong decisions you know, only choices that lead to different experiences. If you choose A you'll get one experience and if you chose to do B you'd get a different one.

If you'd chosen to not email then you'd be sitting wondering and worrying. So I think for your own peace of mind on that score you did the right thing. Now you just have to find a way to stop beating yourself up over the choice you made because it really is ok.

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Hi,

I think sending the eamil was a pretty normal thing to do in the circumstances so please don't worry about it. I am sorry you got a rude reply though.

I think so many girls on this board are in the same position as you and are getting very low because there is no work available. I hope something turns up for you soon.

Jillxx

Thank you for all your replies.  I still haven't heard anything so I am guessing that I didn't get an interview, which was a shame because it was a job I really wanted.  The pay was good, I would have been working on my own and it was really local to me.

I just get so frustrated the longer I am unemployed the more unemployable I become. I am looking into doing another home course (I soon have too many courses to fit on my CV!). And because its coming up to Christmas that does make it worse. It feels like it's definite I'm not going to get anything before the new year and then what???

I know in the scheme of things I am probably overreacting but I just cant help it, I cant sleep and I feel like crying all of the time. I know I am being stupid and your whole mental health cannot be based around whether you are in a job or not, but when I was made redundant I really never thought it would be this hard.