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Hi Lottie, Many thanks for replying to my message. You made some really good points which I am now thinking about. As for the barrister aiding my ex, I don't really know what she was instructing him to do, but I suspect as you pointed out she was probably trying to chivvy him along so as to avoid long drawn out court ordeals. My ex had managed at every twist and turn of the divorce to buy himself more time, by getting things postponed etc. so as to avoid answering questions re. form E. The experience was awful. As our case was considered complex, the solicitor said it was scheduled for the courts at Newcastle quayside as it would take about two days. A few days before the hearing I was called and told that there was a change of plans and that we would now be going to Durham County Court. This court doesn't usually deal with such matters. The place was quite daunting, instead of being around a table and very informal it was quite intimidating. My solicitor asked me to get to the court on the morning of the hearing about an 3/4 hour prior so that she and myself could go over the paperwork. I was left waiting in an area alone for quite some time and then the barrister arrived. She asked where the solicitor was and I told her she was not there yet. That's when the barrister told me she couldn't be there for two days as she had " a video link-up at Newcastle". I found this most odd. I felt as though the whole thing was rushed through for her convenience. I had to try and brief the barrister very quickly and the barrister was not even equipped with the relevant paperwork, I had to give her the file with my information in. The solicitor arrived a short time before we were due to go in to the court room. During the time we were waiting to go into the court room, the barrister came up with the sum of £32,800, this was the only time the sum had been mentioned to me. My solicitor told me I would only have to pay my ex £20,000 if that! in settlement. The solicitor now says that I should have opened my mouth on the day and not complained after about this fact and in hindsight I suppose she was right, but what the solicitor did not take into account was that I had had to move out of the family home with the children and was now living in a damp cramped two bed bungalow. I was sharing a bedroom with my then 18yr old son and 5 yr old son and my asthmatic 13yr old son. I was under extreme duresse and did not relish the thought of living in the place if the court hearing was delayed. Anyway Lottie, thanks very much for your advice, it was much appreciated. Sorry if I've waffled on but it really rankles me the way things have gone. I feel like saying to the barrister "I think you've cost me more than enough money already". Regards motherbear
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