Could you say 100% that you would never cheat in a relationship or do you believe that anyone is capable of cheating and it depends if they are happy or not as to whether they stay faithful?

Could you forgive someone for cheating on you? Can people change? What is your opinion on cheating? Is a kiss in a nightclub classed as cheating or just a drunken mistake/harmless fun?

Everyone is capable of cheating and it's very unlikely someone could say 100% that they would never cheat. Cheating can happen for a number of reason. A person I know does cheat on her bf and she doesn't do it because she doesn't like him it's because she loves the feeling of cheating..apparently, she enjoys it. I've never understood that.

Something which many find weird is I could forgive sex and kissing during that if someone cheated on me. I find it much much harder to forgive kissing a random guy in a nightclub and I can't explain it but that would affect me more.

I think everyone has the potential to cheat on their partner. I think it takes work to keep happy in a relationship. You never stop trying. It is never easy. That may make it sound stressful to be in a relationship but I think you reap what you sow. You put the hard work in and you can be genuinely happy.

When me and DH used to date I always said I couldn't forgive him if he cheated on me. (My previous husband cheated on me and I still struggle with insecurity). But he always said he thought he could forgive me. Now it's reversed. I have to look at the big picture, I grew up in a broken family and I so do not want that for DS. So if DH cheated on me I would have to seriously think about what to do. I always figure everyone deserves a second chance if they are truly sorry. But DH has said he doesn't think he could forgive me or even stay with me. He see's it that he loves me so much, he doesn't think he could forgive me. A different view I suppose to people assuming no matter how you much love someone you can forgive them. He said it would hurt too much and he loves me too much. So I guess it would be overwhelming to him.

I don't think people can change, they just need to learn what are their weaknesses and learn how to deal with them.

I despise cheating. If someone is unhappy in relationship just leave. Why cause so much heartache and hurt by having an affair. I class a kiss as cheating, obviously not as much as having sex with someone. But to some people a kiss can mean more than having sex. It can be more passionate etc. So yes to me kissing is cheating as well.
Co-CL on Mum's Club December 2008, Great Debates
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