Hello all,

I really hope that you can advise me. Please bear with me this might get long!

I have been with my lovely hubby for almost 10 years and this is the third house we have lived in together. The first one was a rented house and was fine. The second one was our first 'home' that felt like a proper home if you know what I mean. That house had a lovely 'vibe' about it. It wasn't in the best area and we had lots of problems with neighbours but the house itself was so lovely.

I don't mean it was a particularly nice/fancy house (it was an average ex-council house) but it felt lovely to be in, we were glad to get home and walk through the door. It felt so homely, it felt easy to take care of and keep nice. The only thing that would sometimes 'spook me' would be that I would feel a presence on the stairs now and then, but nothing too bad.

Everything felt comfortable and in its place there and it felt warm and cosy (not warm temperature-wise, warm as in welcoming).

Four years ago we had enough money to sell that house and move back to a better area, so we decided to go for it because the neighbours were getting really bad (I think they were involved in drugs and police were always round there). There was no way that I would have had a child in that house because of that. I would joke at the time that I wished we could pick up our house and move it into a different area lol.

We looked at 9 houses in one week and chose the house that we are in now. I didn't ever like it but DH insisted that it was the best one. It is in a really nice area. I thought that maybe I didn't like it because it was empty when we viewed it so looked like an empty box. I decided to go with it and was sure that we could make it feel as homely as the last house.

However here we are 4 years down the line and I still hate this house! I just feel like there is such a negative energy in here. It's hard to explain, we have all our same stuff in here but it doesn't 'sit' right. It's so hard to get to look nice, we spend soooo much more time tidying and de-cluttering but it never looks nice or homely.

I feel drained as soon as I walk through the door, it's like I feel happy and enthusiastic about things when I'm out of the house but as soon as I walk in here some negative cloud descends on me. I am totally open to the idea that this could just be a psychological thing with me by the way.

For example yesterday we went out for a drive with our 20 month old DD in the countryside, it was lovely! We were chatting about things that we wanted to do and I really felt energetic and like I wanted to do an exercise DVD as soon as I got home (which I used to do almost every day when we lived at the other house). However the second I stepped through the door it felt like I had no energy, completely exhausted and drained. I spoke to my husband about it and he said that funnily enough he has been experiencing the same but hadn't mentioned it. He is very sceptical about spiritual things and has a scientific mind so his first thought back when he started experiencing this was to check out our Carbon Monoxide levels and it was all fine.

It has got so bad lately that I am beginning to hate this house so much, and the depressing thing is that we are stuck here for at least 5 years due to economic reasons.

Does anyone out there believe in negative energy existing in a property? I have always been a very positive upbeat person and I've lived in lots of homes throughout my life (and different countries etc) but never felt this level of negativity and all out 'dampening of spirits' that I do in my own home. It feels like a cold empty shell of a house, which we spend a lot of energy on and it never looks nice. The minute we turn our backs clutter accumulates (that's how it feels anyway) and we are FOREVER cleaning/tidying/decluttering.

I know that you can do things like burn sage and do the bells etc (sorry I can't remember exactly what you do) to clear negative energy but I feel like I need some more serious help here, like there is something in this house that needs to be put to rest. I don't feel a presence at all though which is weird as I am quite sensitive to things like that.

I know this message probably sounds a bit crazy but if anyone has heard of anything like this then please let me know, there is so so much more that I could write about it but this is long enough already.

The only thing that I'll add because it might be relevant is that the previous owners of the old house were a lovely couple who had lived there for about 40 years when it was a council house and had bought it somewhere along the line. They were so kind and lovely, someone tried to gazump us when we bought it and offered them quite a bit more for it but they said that they would stick to their word and let us have it. However this current house was rented out for years before we moved in. The owner was a horrid man to deal with, kept threatening to pull out all the time whenever there was the slightest delay over anything. Could this have affected the houses to this extent?

Thanks =)

J x

Hi J, not crazy at all. Negative energies can definitely exist in a house. The behaviour of past owners can linger and if a present owner is unhappy then this can add to the problems.

You could try putting more of "you" into the house. Find an ornament or two that you love for example. You could also try cleansing the energies in the house. Maybe burning sage sticks or sage scented joss sticks in each room. Go round the house waving a lit sage stick or joss stick in each corner. Many people find that brushing  (literally with a broom) each room helps. Using a brush move from the "back" of each room towards the door, then out from the landing, stairs and hallway to the open front door. Placing crystals in the rooms, choose ones you like is also very effective.

blessed be