Hello Everyone!

I feel embarrassed putting this question up here as it seems quite petty by comparison to some of the concerns people have.

I am 38 and this is my first pregnancy. I am 20 weeks as of today and due my anomaly scan next week, but I can't help thinking I should be feeling something more than this in terms of movement from the baby.

At most, what I have is a kind of fluttering sensation or a bubbling effect but as much as I want to believe its from the baby, there is the other side of me that thinks it may just be wind. I know that pregnancies are far from text book but is this normal ish?

All other scans have been fine and 3 weeks ago, the midwife let me hear the baby's heartbeat so that was reassuring, but I seem to be in limbo at the moment.

Any reassurance or advice would be appreciated.

Helen

Hi Helen,

I was pregnant with my DD at 34 (I am now 36)and didn't feel proper movement until after 20 weeks as I recall,  However, I did feel what you describe as flutterings and bubblings and this is bound to be your baby moving that you can feel.

It is common to feel movement later during your first pregnancy.   If you are concerned you could always go back and see your midwife for reassurance and to hear the heartbeat again.

HTH

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Hello Helen

Sorry that you are feeling a little stressed about this. If the scans are OK and the midwife says things are normal, then you're probably fine.
When pregnant 3 years ago with my DD (I was 34 at the time), I don't think I felt anything until about 20 weeks, at least I didn't realise that I was feeling her. Little bubbles and flickers really are your baby.

When you get further into your pregnancy (i forget how many weeks but it's closer to the end of the third trimester) then you might be asked to do a 'kick count' when you sit quietly and count how many times your baby kicks or moves in a set period of time. By then, you'll be wishing your baby wasn't moving so much!

So enjoy the sensation because before you know it, those little flickerings will have turned into full blown punches and real kicks!!

HTH
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Hi Helen,

I am 37 and also on my first pregnancy, and 20 + 2 today. I am not getting much movement from my little boy either. A couple of weeks ago I thought I did feel something like a tapping from the inside but since then nothing really. Everyone keeps telling me I am feeling it and just don't realise thats what it is, but I am fairly sure I am not. I really am not worried though, I had my 20 week scan this afternoon and everything is great and I saw our boy give us a little wave ! I have read in books and on websites that it is usual for first babies not to be felt until after 20 weeks so I think you could class this is normal.

I understand your fustration and worry but I am sure we will both be getting pushed and kicked in  the next few weeks!

Isi x

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Thank you all for your replies, they made me feel infinitely better.

Isi_m: We are almost neck and neck as I am, as of today 20 + 4! I have yet to have my formal 20wk scan yet though but this will take place this Friday.

I had major surgery last year (Myomectomy) which complicates my pregnancy somewhat and means that I will need to give birth by C-Section at least a month before my due date to be on the safe side. I am not so worried about this side of things, as long and both the baby and myself are okay and we are in good hands, that's all that is important.

On Wednesday, I will find out the actual birth date and a private 4D scan will hopefully reveal the sex of the baby too, so I am wishing the hours away at the moment. I am so excited!

Did you have much opposition to you wanting to find out the sex of the baby beforehand? My decision to do so has met with mixed emotions ranging from excitement through to horror with me spoiling some big surprise. My argument is that I have quite enough to worry about already, and I think a baby bursting out of my tummy in a few months time is going to be surprise enough!

I have learned already that people are full of advice and mean well (with the exception of my mother in law who I personally would like to dress up as a pinata and strap to a tree in the garden to see what me and a baseball bat can do) but I am still determined to find my own way with the help of you guys and draw on other advice as and when I need to.

Roll on Wednesday!

Thanks again guys.

Helen