Well dont know where to start lovely ladies,

Me and DH have been having a quite a few problems over the last few months as I am sure you can imagin but things have just been getting worse and worse and I am worried that it is all going to come vrashing down.

We dont seem to be able to talk to each other without shouting anymore to be honest I feel sick of the sight of him and I am sure he feels the same way, I dont think he is doing his share and he thinks I am making a big deal out of everything, to be honest its all got quite messy and I dont know what to do about it, or if I even have the energy to do anything about it at all.

Last week we decided to separate and then after trying to work out how relaised that he had no where else to go and I just couldnt face moving me and Charlotte to my Mums, so we decided to try again and see if we could make it work. Me and DH are fine as a couple we just really seem to be struggling to adjust to being a family and bless little Charlotte but she is quite high maintinace and takes up most of my time and energy.

I am just so tired all the time I dont seem to have the energy for it anymore. I cant be bothered to be  upset, angry, worried, anything any more............

Sorry for moaning at you all, you must feel all you ever do is support me, I just have no one eles to talk to as dont want to worry my friends and family.

Kat xxx

OMG Kat :o(

Would you both consider 'marriage' counselling? I'm guessing it'd work better doing it sooner rather than later so if either of you think there is a chance I'd look into it. At least then you'd know you'd both tried everything?

BTW you're not moaning.

Hi,

Jenny, I do think he thinks I am at home on my ass watching day time tv or something lol, he actually said to me today that he doesnt  believe I hadint had chance for lunch, he doesnt know how I mange to fill my day and I am obviously not manging my time very well!

Claire, We have discused counciling and if things dont pick up asap then that will be the next step.

Thanks for your hugs and support.

Kat xxxx

Hi Kat,

You probably don't remember me, I haven't posted in ages though I'm a lurker. Just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. When my DD1 was born DH and I nearly split up a few times in the first few months. Afterwards DD said it was the hardest time in his life and I've heard that from other guys too. I think it's hard for them to accept that we now have LOs to look after, that our world doesn't revolve around them and they have to pull their own weight at home sometimes.

DH promised that we wouldn't have the same issues when our 2nd arrived but to be honest it's not all be roses and we've discussed splitting too though like your DH he wouldn't have anywhere to go either and I'm not moving with the 2 LOs so we're giving it another go at the mo. Sorry, have rambled a bit, just wanted you to know that you are not alone and try to hang in their, it does get better, just tell your DH to grow up! Once Charlotte gets a little older and starts 'communicating' with him your DH will handle things much better and things will be easier for hte pair of you.

Mega hugs,

Liz