Hi my son is 18 months and is naughty all the time. He climbs on everything then falls off and hurts him self. Im always telling him no and end up shouting because i can tell him no move him away from wot he doing wrong and he still gose back to do it. I even tried ignoring him but noting is workin he just keeps doing it. Wot am i doing wrong. We go to play groups 3 times a week like ppl suggested but that isnt  makin any difference at all. Wot else can i do. I really finding it hard to disapline him now.

Thanks Sian.   Xxx

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Hi!

He sounds typical of most toddlers, adventurous explorers but needs a lot of supervision. They have to accomplish and have a real determintation to return to tasks until they work out exactly what to do.

I used to set up safe mini obstacle courses in the living room, work out proper no nos such as climbing on the windowsill.........my dd was told NO and removed, given another toy and yes, I had to do it a few times but she did stop. I blocked off areas which were not "safe" and layed on the floor, and thought about what she may want to investigate, is it safe......no, then remove.

I found soft play centres became my best friend as a place to spend the afternoon with other mums, and dd did go to Tumbletots, so she learnt how to climb and get down safely.

You need to be consistent, however tiring, No is NO for the same thing each time, but allow other exploring if safe.

My son wasn't so bad, he just clung to me which was hard work on another way!

Hi

Dont worry it sounds like you're not doing anything wrong and I dont think he's naughty - just a toddler!

My DS ignores what I tell him to do all the time and I also end up shouting at him sometimes because it seems the only way he hears me.

As long as you are giving him lots of chances to climb/use up energy at the park or where ever you can only keep telling him and it will eventualy get through. One thing that I read that helped me was to limit your no's. I was forever saying no to this and that but apparantly all that can do is make them blank it because they hear it too much so I reserve them for anything thats dangerous or if its something like hitting which has seemed to help us a bit.

Also I read a book called Toddler Taming. I thought it was great. It did not so much give me practical advice but made me understand a toddlers way of thinking and made me accept that I was often expecting too much and that I just had to let some stuff go as toddlers will be toddlers. Being more relaxed seemed to help everything all round - I guess my DS was probably getting just as frustrated with me!

Hope that makes sense and helps a bit

LOl, you sound like me a year ago.  My ds2 is a climber - always was and probably always will be!  Now he follows his 7 year old brother over all the obstacles at the park - which is heart in your mouth stuff.  I don't tryy to stop him anymore as he's better concentrating on what he's doing.

As for the inside climbing you just have to keep saying no and tbh you'll probably end up shouting sometimes.  Soft play centres are great - we have one that does play and eat for £3.50 and you get a drink included, they do adult sandwiches for £1.50 so for £5 you can have a hassle free day.

For indoor entertaing we have a sit and spin toy, a little tykes rocker and a couple of the play furniture things from ikea.  It's worth having a look at what ikea have.  The most played with thing we have is a "rocking chair" it just looks like a cresent moon shape, they can rock on it, climb on it like a bridge and also jump off it.

Good luck!

Sara.

ps I found when I was pg with dd ds1 knew I couldn't catch him if he ran off or side stepped quickly.  He soon learned after she was born though that mummy was back!

Hi

My 20ms ds is a nightmare, LOL! He gets up in the morning and the first thing he does is look to see what he can mess with, climb on, throw about. Very standard and with bells on with little boys, I think.

Try and reduce how much you have to say no. So if he climbs but it is a safe climb, onto the sofa say, then stay near him but don't physically remove him. If he is doing something that will result in injury if he fell, even with you there, say standing on the edge of the bath or climbing a book shelf. Say no once and explain and then remove him, shut the door if you have to, as you know he will go back. If he is like my son he will object mightily, that doesn't matter, you just need to keep him safe not get into an argument with him.

With objects, anything dangerous, precious or highly breakable remove it - why have the constant shouting and fuss.If he is playing with something that is OK don't try and take it off him. My ds loves the hoover (not plugged in of course) and using the big sweeping brush or even fiddling with out tv card. If it gets to the stage that you think he is overmeddling with something, again remove it for now.

In the next year or so he will respond more to reason, but there is no point at this age, and if he is stubborn it may take 2-3 years before he is more amenable to things.

But strike a balance and let him have freedom too. My kids can bounce on my bed, climb on my sofas, run round the lounge. Hell he can through my make-up if he doesn't destroy it. And remember he may well need to go out daily for a run around - don't stay in getting cabin fever. Make things at home as child friendly as you can.

BW

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