Well basically we went for our scan yesterday to be told that although we heard tictac heartbeat saturday that it had gone by yesterday :(

they want to rescan tommorrow and for me to take a tablet as my body although im bleeding is still trying to carry my baby and not let it go ....

they cant say why its happened , im shocked confussed and cant stop crying

my poor boyfriend is totally devestated and i dont know how to make it better

why me!!! why us !!!!why my baby !!!!!

what have i done thats so wrong!!!

will we be able to concieve again ?? god im so confussed

cant get round to removing my ticker yet dont feel right somehow

sweetdreams tictac you were so wanted and loved im sorry that i let you down

love mummy and daddy x x x x x x x <3 <3

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Hi

I'm so sorry to be welcoming you here.  What a devastating shock you and your boyfriend have had.

Sadly, there often are no answers, and there is nothing that you have done that would have led to this.

The ladies here understand how devastating a loss this is, and hopefully we can offer you some comfort and support.

Jane

Hi Samantha

I too am new to this board. I went to the EPU this afternoon, following a bleed over the weekend to be told that I had M/C again, my 2nd in 5 months.

They gave me a leaflet from Tommy's and i just looked on their website www.tommys.org whilst it can't provide answers it did give me some more information. The nurse reassured me that there was nothing that I had done to make this happen and nothing that I could have done differently to have prevented it - the same is true for you.

It is only natural to be upset by what has happened, it does feel so unfair. The nurse told me today that as soon as I had a 'normal" period there was no reason why we couldn't try again. And whilst I know it may take some time and a lot of strength it will happen - there are some posts on here that reassured me that I was not alone and a lot of people out there are in a similar position, who now have healthy babies.

The first time this happened to me I did not talk about it, but have found that there are a lot of friends and colleagues that have also suffered a loss, and talking about it helped me. My DH has also been a huge support to me and it has brought us closer together.

Sending you big hugs

Lucy

Hi

So sorry to hear of your loss.  The range of emotions that you go through is unbelievable and so emotionally draining and then a horrible numbness.

Be gentle on yourself and take care.

Kaz x