Hi all,

I've looked at this board a few times but have finally come to terms with being here.

I've been around IV for many years and have recently left MD June.  After initially being diagnosed as a having had a complete miscarriage, they discovered an ectopic pregnancy last week and I had surgery last Thursday. It's very strange actually as Kaz who has joined here was in the same ward as me at the same time - shame we didn't know at the time. She aqctually refers to someone watching Benidorm in their room - and that was probably me!

Physically I'm OK. Emotionally it's a different matter.  I'm Ok but then will be emotionally choked without any real trigger.  It doesn't help that we are in the middle of a loft conversion and so the builders are around all day.

If any of you has any tips on dealing with this I'd really appreciate it.  And also the question that always get asked - what about the DHs?  Mine is brilliant and supportive - he's just not talking about it much and defelects any questions about how he is feeling back around to me.

Cheers,

Skippy

Hi Skippy

Hun I am so sorry for your loss. The ladies on this board are amazing and supported me through my mc in April this year when I thought I would have a breakdown I was so sad.

The best advice I was given by Charlie on this board was to take things very slowly, hour by hour if necessary and don't put any pressure on yourself to recover from this. Everyone copes with grief differently, for me grieving properly and not holding it all in was what I needed. My DH sounds like he was like yours, very supportive but not really opening up. He did eventually and I didn't push him on it. He told me later that he found it so difficult to see me in so much pain and not be able to stop it, he felt the loss just in a different way to me.

I am so sorry you have lost your lo, I remember you from years ago on TFAB+1 when you were a fab support for me and lots of other ladies. Sending you very gentle hugs hun.

Lou
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