hiya..

the feeding has got better with nappy changin trick but now another problem (is it ever going to end? :(]

Parth now refuses to sleep in his cot.. last night he was on my lap from 9 - 3am and then on DH from 3-7am. had two hourly feed in between but wud wake up crying the moment we put him in his cot. the story continued today and i couldnt do anything but to hold him.. no lunch/ dinner and had to resort to take away... even now i am typing with one hand and holding him with another... i have given him bath which knocked him down but he woke up in 15 minutes after putting him in his cot

have tried letting him cry but he cried for 30 minutes and then finally choked... i couldnt bear it.... how to make him sleep in his cot??

deea..

Hi deea

Some ideas as I had the same issue

Prop up cot slightly on books so that head whole baby body slightly tilted (head up) in case mucous making breathing difficult, also helps with wind apparently

Hold baby for 30 mins after each feed in upright (or at least head higher than body) position, again to reduce wind discomfort

Cuddle as much as you can to comfort baby - if I remember rightly you had rather a traumatic birth like me (kiwi cup?), you might want to check out the birth trauma message board - I don't know if this is why your baby needs a lot of comforting, I think it's totally normal whatever kind of birth you've had, but it might be a good source of info if you think Partha is still upset after birth

Good luck! 

Anna xxx

hi deea

same as you and anna, I have had the same issue - and the midwives said due to nature of delivery. I had forceps - and as an entry to the world its pretty scary and traumatic for baby. Midwives said the only thing is cuddles and lots of love and letting LO know they are safe and then over time they will calm.

Which is all very well...but I was completely sleep deprived and going doo-lally through lack of sleep. My heart was breaking for poor little baby needing cuddles, but who was cuddling me LOL.

Anyways, all I can say is over the week it has got better. I tend to cuddle Ruby until she passes through the early stages of sleep e.g. until she falls into a deeper sleep then lay her down very very gently in her cot and leave a hand on for a while and make shushing noises. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. If it doesn't - I pick her back up and start again.

Totally knackering - but everyone keeps assuring me it will just get better in time. Its important to keep trying to put Partha down in the cot though (even if you need to pick him back up) as otherwise you could end up with a longer term problem where he never sleeps alone. My Ruby also will sleep on the activity mat alone, or in the car seat - so perhaps try a few different places? On the mat in front of the tumble dryer worked well too!

Just stick with it hon. We are promised that these weeks are the very hardest and you will be able to look back in time and congratulate yourself in getting through. Take it a day at a time and don't be afraid to ask for help - even just an hour of someone else holding your baby to give you a bit of respite whilst you relax or read a magazine and drink a cup of tea in peace is like a gift from god.

Speak soon

Seren x

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we are having the same problem, and niamh is also a forceps baby!

we are however not helping ourselves as we like holding her and cuddling her, but she complains as soon as she realises shes in her bed.

i cant really offer any more advice than has been given, i tend to feed her till she falls asleep, wind her, let her fall asleep on my shoulder and then put her in her basket and hope for the best. i really dont want to give her a dummy, i did actually go and sterilise one last night as we could not soothe her and all she wanted was cuddles with mummy or daddy, but she did eventually go to sleep and i didnt have to use it.

shes been unsettled in her own bed from hours after she was born! i think its one of those things that will just take time.

x x x

 

Hi

Might also be that the cot is cold when he goes back in?...and he has been used to feeling the warmth from being in your arms...try putting a hot water bottle in there while you feed, then take it out before you put him back in?

Just an idea..worked with my DD.

x