I feel like my heart is breaking.  I have just been told that my baby has died.  I was nearly 17 weeks pregnant but they say it died at about 13 weeks. 

This is my 9th miscarriage.  St Mary's diagnosed me with 2 blood clotting disorders and I have been taking Clexane and 150mg of aspirin since week 5.  I have had no spotting or pain, just felt incredibly pregnant.

I only went for a check up and they said I could hear the heart beat if i wanted, after a long time of trying to find it they agreed to do a scan, that's when they told me it had died.

They wanted me to give birth to it but I just can't so I am booked in for an op on Friday if I can't go privately somewhere before.

The consultant said that it is highly unlikely that a blood clot caused this because of my meds.  What else can it be?

I just feel so sad!  I do have 2 BDs so I know that I am lucky in that respect but I just want to have another baby.  I feel so stupid as I let my guard down and actually began to enjoy this pergnancy.

Please help!

Pen xxx

Hi Pen,

I really don't know what to say except I am so sorry that this has happened to you. (((((hugs)))))

I have never had a miscarriage as late on as that so I can only imagine what you must be feeling. 

Have you got people around you to support you and help you through this??  I do hope so as you really need them right now. 

I think all you can do is take it one step at a time and once Friday is over and done with, then start asking the questions you need answering.

Can you ask your GP or hospital about counselling perhaps??

Once again, I am so very sorry.

Be kind to yourself and take time to grieve properly.

Hugs

Lou

x

hi pen, im affraid i dont have any advice for you but just wanted to say:

im so very sorry for your loss! ((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))

hugs

Pen, I have had two pregnancies where I was told at about 10 weeks that my babies had not survived so cannot imagine how you feel to be told that at 17 weeks.  My heart goes out to you.  Please stay strong and hope you get through Friday the best you can. 

Melanie

xxx