Hi Carol

You sound like you are still in shock. How do you feel about abortion yourself? Could you cope with the aftermath of abortion and possible feelings of guilt that some experience? Or do you think you would be OK?

Why did you decide to never have anymore kids? (And were you using contraception?)

You can have this child with your new partner. He sounds like he would support you. Or you could have an abortion and choose whether to tell him or not. Does he know you don't want kids? If you told him, he sounds like he would be upset at the abortion route (again, have to ask, did he use a condom?). Or you could keep the abortion secret and if your relationship grew and you stay together it coluld be the secret that eats you up inside. It is a hell of a secret to keep from people you love.

Don't rush into any decisions yet. Have a think about how you feel about having another child and having an abortion. Try and think through all the possible scenarios. And then see where you are at. At the end of the day you have to do what you can live with because it is your life and no-one elses. And what ever your decision we are here to support you.

x

PS The Qs above about contraception are more for you to answer yourself rather than on here. I've asked them to help you figure out how you feel. From experience, some people don't use contraception because they actually do want more kids but can't bring that discussion up with their partners. I'm wondering if that is the case here, or if it's just heat-of-the-moment stuff where caution has been thrown to the wind in a new relationship.

Hi hun

Im in a simular situation but a little different. Im preg and my partner wants me to have the abortion if i dont i will loose him!!!

As people tell me u have a few wks to make ur choice so try and relax and think about. Im going to the clinic tomorrow just to chat as im phobic about abortions.

You could do that at least they will listen and help you to sort out ur feelings. Its a horrid situation but remember as the woman its ur choice

Good Luck

xxxx

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Hi

Sounds like you're in a lot of shick hon and I think the replies you've had are both great - because you do have time.... take a little time to think about how YOU feel about it all - never mind what people would think etc - just how would you feel about a) another child b) termination.

I know its hard to think clearly when you're so shocked. Did you ever see yourself having moer children? If the relationship wasn't so new would you feel happier about the pregnancy?! At 3 weeks its still so early on - and you truly do have a few weeks to try to get your head round it.

please keep talking though - we're non-judgemental here and will help you as much as you want - or lkisten whilst you bounce stuff off of us x x x x x

Proud Mummy to Jenson, aged 4, and Amelia-Grace, 18mths and six precious ^i^ babies

 

 

 

                    

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i really do feel for you, but can you continue to live your life for eveybody else? you've made the step of leaving your husband for your own reasons so why not have or dont have this baby for your own reasons???

i know that sounds really simple but if you make this choice based on upsetting others...will you regret it.. will you resent them?

what ever you decide let it be for your own reasons not because of anyone else i think the only person to consider is your daughter

wishing u all the best xxxx