Hi

unfortunatly im new here

went for a 12 week scan yesterday and our baby had no heartbeat :(

i have to go in tommorrow to take a tablet to help me

but i have a few questions

will i concieve again ?

im 35 already have 3 healthy boys

but dont understand why this has happened what did i do wrong

im so worried we wont fall again :(

how long do we have to leave it before we could maybe try

im assuming i maybe wrong but surely once its all over and my precious baby as left my body it will take a few periods to concieve again am i right in thinking this ?

sorry i feel so lost and confussed and hospital aint saying much :(

thank you for listening sam x x x

hello sweetie (((((((((((hugs)))))))))) i really didnt want to have to welcome you to TTCAL, its all a bit of a roller-coaster ride at the moment hunni ... i bet.

firstly to answer your questions ..... unless you have had fertility issues you are no more less likely to get pg after m/c then before ... in fact some say your more fertile after m/c ..... i think is rule of thumb hun if you get pg quickly before than you more than likely will this time (((((((((((hugs))))))))

you did NOTHING wrong sweetie ....... sometimes its just natures way of saying something isnt right .... i know that doesnt make it easier and i know you will blame yourself ...we all do, you couldnt have known or done anything to prevent this awful thing happening to you.

as for getting pg again most doctors will say leave it one cycle before trying again ... this is more for dating a pg than for any other reason as you dont count the bleed from m/c as a/f ..... i didnt wait for a cycle after my loss or my chem pg.... i didnt fall pg right away but thats how my body works..... lots of ladies get pg before having an a/f and go on to have healthy babies!!

you will know when its right for you hun

if you need to talk or need anything at all hun just shout!! i will be thinking of you tomorrow, and we will be here for you when your ready!

love

Glitter Word Generator co-cl on TTCAL and TFAB mummy to 3 boys and one angel

Oh hun I am so so sorry for your loss, you will have done nothing wrong hun honestly. I am sure everyone on this board has had the same feelings, but it was nothing you did. These awful things happen in life, but you will recover and there is no reason at all why you wont conceive again.

Normally docs say wait for first af after m/c but that is only for dating reasons. There is no reason why you cant try as soon as your mc is complete and the bleeding has stopped.

Hun we are all here for, and will answer any questions you have. Rant cry away, we have all been there.

Loadsa love luck and hugs

Lou