HI

I'm hoping someone might be able to offer some advice,as i have tried everything, and my next move will have to be hv (mines a bit ott) or even dr for advice.

my 10 month old hardly eats any solids and then wants to bf almost all through the night. i don't know what else to try.

breakfast if anything is a rusk mushed with whole milk, but usually only eats a quarter to half of it. he refuses point blank , porridge (baby or ordinary) ready brek, weetabix or fruit. then a bf

mid morning another bf most days its 2 some 3, if he doesn't get a bf when he wants one he gets so wound up,screaming, crying, nothin stops him, apart from bf and belive me i have tried it all.

lunch, is almost none existant,he refuses anything off a spoon,clamps his mouth shut and turns away,so i'll give assorted finger foods,but i'm lucky if he actually gets a couple of mouthfuls he drops most on floor or sqishes it and plays in it.

afternoon is same as morning and tea is the same as lunch. followed by an evening of 2 bf's (all he wants) then,3-4 feeds during the night if i'm lucky!

we have tried giving him solids before a bf, but he gets so worked up he can't eat anyway,tried homemade food/ tins etc, not interested at all (not even sweet things,will only have a couple of spoonfuls of those). went down blw route because of this but this never took off either.

we have tried everything at night too, giving water,the trying to get him back to sleep by rubbing,patting, music, dh doing all the mentioned, and the one i was loathe to do, controlled crying, we did that one for over a week and if anything he got worse as he would get in such a state.

he won't take any type of milk,from a bottle, and he seems to be forever feeding from me again at the moment, just when i thought it should be slowing down. i'm worried he's not getting enough vitamins, iron etc, and from just weighing him at home,is not putting on a great deal of weight.

anybody any ideas?

love nikki and alex

p.s i have a 4 yr old, but he took to solids almost straight away and dropped the milk feeds himself!

 

My little boy was similar..... one thing i would say is dont feed him straight away when you get up in the morning.... if it's feasable wait an hour or so before you offer breakfast. My boy often took some time to realise he was hungry in the morning..... he would eat very little otherwise...... it's also OK for them to eat more at some meals than others..... let him build up a bit of an appetite before each meal.

Good luck

Nicki + Zander x

Sounds like an enthusiatic BFing baby to me.

My DD was around 10 months before  we even introduced breakfast though she was enjoying "playing" with food at dinner from just before 6 months and lunch by 8 months. To be honest she was 9 months before we could easily  recognise what had gone missing from her plate, as opposed to just moved around.

These days I think she is a great eater but she will never eat a full meal for every meal in a day. Sometimes she will "gorge" on breakfast  other days our evening meal as if she has not seen food for days! It all balances out though and  she gets what she needs from what goes in and her bfs.

It is not just a rhyme that food is fun till you're one...and you should remember that just because they have had a birthday doesn't mean they suddenly only need food either just that the balance is shifting.....slowly.

Hi Nikki

I had a similar problem with my son, he's now seven months so it's not quite the same, but he too loves his breast milk far too much! He wanted to feed all day instead of trying new foods at 6 months old. My son has never taken a bottle - he refuses point blank.

I think the best advice I could offer is to start taking control back over breastfeeds. Yes, offer him a feed because none of us like to have a distressed baby, but you determine the length of it. If you can shorten them slightly, then wait an hour, offer food and then 'reward' with a short feed afterwards then he might get used to eating something.

My son loved the novelty of drinking milk (goats milk) from a tommee tippee cup, despite always refusing a bottle. Now I am back at work he has feeds from me in the morning, before bed and feeds twice per night (I happy that he's settling into me being away so we won't tackle that one right now) and has milk from a cup twice a day.

I did find that he hated anything smooth, pureed or tasteless. No surprise really as breastmilk is very tasty compared to formula. So I just put him straight on textured fish pie, chicken casseroles and now he's worked up to beef hotpot and lamb dishes. Basically I cook all of us a meal for 5pm without salt and whizz his up so he eats exactly what we do. He shovels his food down, is excellent at chewing lumps (only one month on from starting weaning) and is a completely different boy.

HTH, Kate xxx