I am so upset.  The frigging CSA have given me a frigging migraine!!!

So... the deductions of earning schedule started end of Sept.  I was told not to expect the money in my account until early November.  As a sideline they also handed stuff over to the criminal compliance team as he does party promoting (urgh!!! yuk yuk!!) as a lucrative side-line.  i asked if looking into that would intefere with the regular payments but I was assured not.

I called them today just to see when I could expect the money to reach my account.  Guess what?  THere is no money.  The guy on the phone couldn't say why... all he could see was that the deductions of earnings didn't work in Sept nor in Oct.  Nobody has investigated it and nobody has bothered to alert me. 

I asked why no-one has told me and why nothing has been done and all I get is a robotic youth telling me "I can't answer that.. we'll get back to you within 48 hours".

I'm so upset / overdrawn / filled with vindictive type emotions.  The girls have had to listen to the idiot whining about his money being stolen off him... and all the while there is no frigging money!  I really needed that financial help with the kids!!

I feel like crying but I'm sat in the office trying to look like a normal person dying to behave like a lunatic.  WHy oh why did I ever think it was OK to reproduce with him?  And why does the CSA think it's ok to not communicate?  Why does this all have to be so hard?

You have my complete sympathies.

I know exactly where you're coming from!

The Git goes on to my lot about having no money, then got married in the US last year and has had a holiday in Greece last month...  I can't even afford a day out.  He says he works 12 hours when he works full-time plus over + overtime.

On paper the CSA is such a brilliant idea.  However, I think if someone wants to lie and succeeds in hiding money then they know they'll get away with it.

Sorry, that's my rant.

My eldest is coming up to 18, and there's not going to be anything vaguely special about it...

I don't have any answers for you.  I'm really sorry.

Jane

I spoke to the CSA again and this time I've been told that in fact there is nothing to suggest that the money won't be coming.  THey said his company had until around the 14th of this month before they needed to hand it over to the CSA so the fact that they haven't doesn't mean anything at this point.  Judging by the ex's reactions I think the money has been deducted out of his earnings.

Girls came back from him this weekend to tell me that he's leaving England soon to be a monk for a while (he's not English).  My eldest asked if it was because he was "running from his problems or was it to find himself spiritually" - big words from a 12 year old.  He told her it is because he is so unhappy and he has sooo many problems and he thinks it's because he been neglecting Buddah so he feels he owes it to Buddah to make things right again.  Girls feel huge sympathy for him and have given him their blessing to go.

For pete's sake!!!!!  Great, huh?

Told my daughters I felt a bit sad too so I was thinking I may trot off to a nunnery for a while... I was told I couldn't, who would look after them.  (they do know I was talking rubbish and didn't believe it for a nanosecond)  I asked why they felt it was ok for Daddy to do this but not for me... but they got tearful so I shut my trap quickly and talked about their imminent exams (just to cheer them up). 

Grrrr - nothing I can do though, is there, if he wants to escape?

Bless him....

(said in a sarcastic tone...)