Hi

I am really struggling to cope with my DD's behaviour. She is nearly 9 and she has become so difficult to cope with. Last night she came downstairs after being tucked in bed and refused to go back upstairs I tried reasoning with her about being tired the next day, asking her to not let me down she had promised to be good because her Dad is ill with flu, but she just flatly refused to move off the sofa telling me I was horrible etc and throwing cushions at me. I tried lifting her but she was too heavy and lost my temper and smacked her leg. I then ran out of the house because I felt I was losing my temper so much. I calmed down and came back after a few minutes. Her Dad said she had gone to bed in tears, she came down a few minutes later to say sorry but wasn't really sorry as she blamed me for not letting her stay up.

Lately I just feel like its such a struggle to get her to do anything, get dressed for school, turn the TV off or do her homework. She does as she's told for her Dad but walks all over me. I feel scared to take her out with me shopping in case she starts shouting and not doing as she's told. I find it hard to discipline her I've sent her to her room or stopped her watching TV etc but she is good until the punishment is lifted then back to normal. It makes me so sad because we used to be so close. I always praise her for good behaviour and really don't know where I'm going wrong. She's just so stubborn and difficult at the moment and I feel like she hates me!

Can anyone offer any suggestions/

Hi,

I'm really sorry to hear that you are struggling with your DD.   Although I cannot offer any advice I do understand as I am going through exactly the same with my (almost) 8 year old DS (at the moment just S without the D).  

At the moment he's fairly quiet watching Jurassic Park with me but he still kicks up a fuss about wanting more treats in the form of sweets, it has to stop at some point.  

Thank you for putting everything into words, I shall wait for any replies and hopefully receive some advice or inspiration from them.

You're not alone.

Dozey.