hi, i've not posted here in absoloutely ages, but i'm at a real loss what to do. Basically my son has always been quite precocious, gets on really well with adults but has never been interested in friends. He's also got 2 brothers, 1 younger and one older. He does play with them but it has to be by his rules else he just won't play. He's very intelligent, is reading at Year 2 book level, not far behind my eldest son who is actually in Year 2. He was put on the gifted and talented register when he was in nursery. The real problem is how he acts with his peers at school. I hadn't mentioned anything to his new teacher because i didn't want to make her have an opinion of him already. Anyway he came home on Friday really upset that no one wanted to be his friend because they were saying he's naughty. Now I couldn't undesrtand this because he's always been a very good child before. So I went into speak to his teacher and she informs me that he's being quite nasty to other kids and saying that their work is so easy and basically rubbishing it. He also makes no attempt to play with other kids and the teacher is trying to pair him up with different working partners but doesn't seem to be doing much good.

Basically I'm concerned about this behaviour of laughing at other kids work cos its easier than his, really worried about his lack of interest in friends. Is this a child with Aspergers? Or am i completely overeacting, is he maybe just very clever and not so bothered about friends. Of course another thing I've thought about is whether he's bored at school and is maybe attention seeking.

Anyone got any ideas or advice, Please it would be really appreciated as i'm really struggling with this.

Thanks

Tara

Hi Hun

I hope that I can hope as Jake is on the spctrum and I belive he is on he aspergers side, The one thing thats makes me think his about Jake is that although he is clever in certain areas he is behind lots in social and physical skill, still not toilet trained ect. BUT he does make friends at school, his teaahcers are amazed as he knows every childs name in the school already, he plays but will withdraw and often plays by himself. If his routines are broken then he is the davil child himself.

To be on the spectrum they ahve to meet 3 types of disorder , This sort of explains it, in brackets are how jake fits

but all children with an ASD share a triad of impairments in their ability to:

• Understand and use non-verbal and verbal communication (speech delay of 12-18mths, has problems with pronasiation, will use gestures instead of language, prefers 1 word answers. Needs very simply instructions, (so take you coat off and put it away, would be coat off, in cupboard).He reacts better to picture instructions)
• Understand social behaviour which affects their ability to interact with children and adults(he doesnt understand how to behave with oher children, he doesnt understand rules and boundrys)
• Think and behave flexibly — which may be shown in restricted, obsessional or repetitive activities. (he lines up toys, obessions with certain toys, needs things said well if litrail, like they said they where off on a bear hunt, he thougth they where and not as the book pretend)

I do wonder if It is because he is clever and finding school very easy and being distrupive becuase of this, maybe a word with the teacher may help

liz

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hey tara

personally i'd say why try and label him, sounds like he's really intelligent and just needs stimulus on his level. lets face it, if you're sat with a load of people boring the tits of you, you aren't going to be on your best behaviour.

alfie's been paired (for similar reasons) with a buddy who is in a diferent year group to reception class - alfie's decided most of his reception roup are babies. it may be that as the other kids mature th behaviours will level out.

hope evrything is ok

Lj x