Just because all four of you are either having a rough time or have a particular reason to be sad at this time of year...

Big hugs

Ellie xx

Thanks Ellie

Zoe

xxx

Hi Zoe,

Once you get through this first couple of weeks, you will surprise yourself at how well you can actually be a mum on your own. Actually I find it easier now - cos I know what has to be done and cos there only me to do it I'm not waiting for or expecting any help.

Take to the sofa with a duvet, dvd's, sandwiches, chocolate and fizzy pop, have lots of cuddles, try not to worry when the place gets to be a tip, a good cleaning up rage can help no end as well!! Put some music on - theres nowt worse than silence, but try to avoid music - its all about heartbreak and doesnt help. Radio 4 is surprisingly good company!

I had to stop myself from drinking alone, cos I know I could get myself into a right state, and I just stopped having any in the house when I was by myself. As for the eating - I know that feeling well too, I dont think I ate properly for about 2 months, certainly went from a 16 to a 12 anyway.... But it will come back.

Get to the docs, and try to accept that even though it feels unendingly crap and hopeless now that it will get better. Oh and feel free to punch people (HARD) who say things like "you'll be stronger on the other side" and "theres plenty more fish in the sea"

Talk to people, dont shut yourself away, and do what you need to to get through. Wish you lived closer ((((hugs))))

Love Helen xXx

 

 

Becki, Kathy, and Jo,

Sorry I didn't mean to not say anything about you, its just Ive been talking to Zoe on FB, and having been through it recently I wanted to help.

I really really hope that you can get through too. We all still think about you but there are no easy answers, just time I guess. But you all (and Zoe) have things that you can be thankful for, which is why we are all here.

((((hugs all round)))

Love Helen xXx

PS. Kathy, we still havent had that bloody coffee! Get in touch!!!

 

 

Thanks Ellie.  I'm actually feeling pretty sh*tty at the moment and it's nice to know people care (even if it is virtually).  Trying to act normal for the sake of everyone else but it's not easy

x

Becki xx