The girls have been play dressing up this morning while DSs has been to the park with dad.  The girls use our bedroom to dress up in because they like wearing my shoes and accessories and they use old make-up.  DD knows what is for play and what is not and so does SD so why does she think it's ok to raid my expensive perfume and make-up and make a complete mess with it?  DD came downstairs to tell me what SDs been using saying she'd told her not to, so I go upstairs and find SD using her grubby paws to put on my Clinique eyeshadow wearing my wedding shoes which were in a box in the 'do not touch' zone with grubby muck on them!!! 

Obviously I tell her off just as I would do my DD except SD can't take it and she's been flouncing around like a spoilt princess being rude to me and telling me I'm not her mum so I can't tell her off or do anything anyway and apparently the worst I can do is shout at her!  I am so cross because DD wouldn't dare be so disrespectful but SDs attitude has been rubbing off.  Well that is until DH comes home then you'd think butter wouldn't melt. 

I have decided not to make an issue of it because I don't want to create an atmosphere, which it will do.  Because whenever SD comes over there's something disruptive that happens.  Why can't she just follow the rules and stop acting like a diva?  It's getting to the point where I'll be making myself scarce when SDs which goes against my family values because I want us all to muck in and get on, not muck in and fight!  

I just wanted to get that off my chest!

Deep breath - I'm going to go downstairs, ignore the squabbling, put on my ipod and zone out!  Apparently the worst I can do is shout anyway - where's the respect?!

Where is Dad?  You make it clear to him that he is to control his kid or she's no longer welcome.

The girl is here to visit Dad not you or your kid and you are not the built in babysitter.

TBH, I think a bit of pro active parenting would have stopped this. I don't know how old the children are but maybe be in the same room as them? Or get out what they can use & have your bedroom as a no go zone?