Hi

Welcome to the board.

I think you're still in shock tbh, you only found out yesterday. The likelyhood is that if you give it time to sink in you will want your baby. You obviously like young children judging by your work & the NVQ you are doing.

If you are serious about not keeping the baby, adoption is another option. Don't rush into anything, wait till you get used to being pregnant.

Sam
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Hi, and welcome to the board. I'm Izii 19 and mummy to toby who is coming up to 2 1/2.

First off, huge ((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) this must be a big shock for you. I'm not sure if we are the right people to ask about this as we all had children young so are probably a bit biased. There is an uplanned pregnancy board too, which you might find helpful http://messageboards.ivillage.co.uk/iv-ukpbshockpg

For what it's worth, I'm not sure anyone can answer your question but you. It's worth bearing in mind that you dont have to decide right now. If you decide to terminate, it is best done before 12 weeks, but you have time to think about it. You're still in shock, and you need to let your brain tick this over before you make a decision. If you decide you want to terminate, you can change your mind right up until you have it done. If you are thinking of going down this route, then I would recommend researching it first, and find out as much about the methods, aftercare etc as possible. If you ask about a termination, you will be refered for counselling to talk things through with a proffessional first.

If you think there is any chance you might want to keep the baby, you need to start taking folic acid, which you can get on prescription from the Dr, or in poundland, asda etc.

Having a baby at any age is hard. Having one young is possibly a bit harder. But it can also be the best, most fulfilling thing you could ever do. Working full time, you would be entitled to paid maternity leave, time off for appointments etc. You would get tax credits, child benefit etc to help out financially.

Hope you find an answer you can be at peace with. Feel free to ask any questions, and keep us posted

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 Izzi

Breastfeeding, cosleeping, sling wearing, home educating, cloth nappying, child led, teenage AP mummy to Toby

    

Hey

Like you've said, youre still in shock and finding out youre pregnant is always a big deal.
Before you make any decisions you need to look into all aspects. Keeping the baby, adoption and then abortion.
Dont let anyone bully you into any of theses choices, its you're body and you're baby. (My doctor seemed to press abortion on me like there was no tomorrow)

Having a baby isnt the end of the world and doesnt mean you have to give up on your future plans.

If your nvq is whats making you think having an abortion would be easier then you really should know that after you had youre baby you could always go back to your training.
There is a scheme called "Care to learn" that would pay for childcare once you start going back to college.

When i was pregnant i'll admit i did look into abortion more because i was scared of being a mum more then not wanting my baby, and if thats the case for you then abortion isnt the answers.

You have a great support in the form of your mother and boyfriend which is fantastic so maybe sit down with both of them and have a good talk about how you feel.

I was 16 when i found out i was pregnant and i gave birth to my daughter a month before my 17th.
I went back to college a month before i turned 18, my daughter when to a fantastic nursery all paid for by the care to learn. (Then i found out my course wasnt for me so quit)
But im going back to college next september just before i turn 20 (19 now) and then hopefully on to uni.

What im trying to say is that having a baby doesnt mean you have to stop living youre life. You can be a stay at home mum, work part time, full time, just go to college to get abit of time for yourself.

Its always scary to begin with, but what ever you decide, make sure its 100% the right decision FOR YOU.

Good luck with what ever you decided, just keep up posted :)