Where to begin . . .  my partner is fine for a week or so and then will begin to be hostile . . .  if 4/5 days elapses

without sexual contact a tension builds ! Which then will reach a crescendo of unpleasantness where i

will freak out and start shouting !  I can't read in peace. sit quietly in peace or even get up in peace without a

horrid atmosphere !  I can't open the curtains or put on the radio in the mornings, even if it;s only a little

or quietly ! If i go out 9 times out of 10 he has to accompany me . . .  in 2006 he sent me to casualty for a

facial x-ray after we had both been drinking heavily . . .  i was kicked to the ground and kicked in the head

and yes i did give him what for about all the lies he told about his ex 17 yr old that he had made pregnant . .

he said she was a bitch !  Why live with her for 15 yrs and have 4 children with her if she was such a bitch?!!!

And now after having an accident which left me unable to walk in 2007 he has looked after me  . . . but still

through all that if my daughter stayed or visited there was always an atmosphere from him.

I haven't been able to work since 2006 because of ill health (4 months after i moved in with him actualy)!  It

does make me wonder if he is actualy making me ill ! (emotionaly, psychologicaly) . . .  i feel so ashamed

asking for help from Refuge or Womens Aid . . .  i have no savings and no property.

What a mess

paffs x

hello paffs and welcome to the board

it doesnt sound like you are happy living with him, its no wonder you freak out if he tries to control your actions you must be walking on egg shells.
please dont feel ashamed about contacting womans aid, that is what they are there for to help people to survive abuseive relationships, they are not judgmental and will give you information that will empower you. i have personal experience of them and they really are helpful and understanding.
maybe you can also go to the gp and ask for some counselling that will give you some time and space to be yourself without fear/
all the best hayley