This morning my fiancee and I had a minor disagreement - the bank had given her some charges as she'd accidentally gone over her overdraft limit. I asked if I could talk to them and try and get the charges reversed (my bank do this for me all the time). She said no it's not worth it, I said it's worth a try - cue inexplicably huge argument.

This culminated in her slapping me round the face, and trying to punch me in front of her nearly 3yr-old daughter (my step-daughter). In self-defence, I pushed her away from me, pushed her to sit down on a chair and held her hands. She's scratched my wrists/arms quite a lot - but she's saying I'm in the wrong for pissing her off so much and shoving her.

What do I do? At 6 foot 7 and quite stocky & strong, I know I don't stand a chance with the Police. I was an Army Cadet instructor as a teenager and got into a fair few fights at school because I was bullied quite a lot. I've never started a fight in my life, the last thing I would do is hurt someone close to me.

What do I do?? Any advice really welcome!

Hi,  Firstly you are being brave coming on here and talking about it.   It is not always the man that is the perpertrator and there are lots of women out there who abuse their partners.

There are some crisis intervention services for men and women although obviously women's aid is what it says and is for women.  However, a lot of the women's aid organisations are taking referrals from men and are changing their names to something else.   I would look up the nearest women's aid charity to you and give them a ring and ask them if there are any support services around for men.  Or phone Domestic Violence Freephone Helpline: 0808 2000 247 and ask them.  There are some support services out there for men for sure.  It will help you to  understand what is happening and how to perhaps address the situation.  They are not judgemental and will support you if they can.

Also your partner is not acting very responsibly in front of her daughter and there could be child protection issues if she continues to hit out at you.  Has she ever done anything like this to you before?

Alternatively, perhaps sit down with your partner and talk through what the problem is - she needs to address her anger in some way.  Perhaps the doctor may be able to help.

However, I would strongly  suggest that you to seek some support for yourself firstly by contacting a local agency such as above.

Hope this helps