Hi,

Im looking for some advice before I go flying off the handle.  I left my husband for my first love after I found out my husband was having affairs for years.  At first it was fantastic but things seem to have gone stale between us on the sexual front.  I have seen on his computer that he has been looking at cheap rooms in another town and Im now convinced that he is going to cheat.  My husband cheated on me for years and sometimes I do get parnoid.  I dont know how to approach this x

Hi Kezza and welcome to the board,

Others will advise you differently from me, I know that, but the only way I know is head on.

But first I have to ask why you were looking at his computer history, and also when you say the sexual front went stale, do you mean in the same way as it did with your DH when you went looking for/found the first love?

You didn't say how long you'd been married before you had an affair, but I do know that all relationships loose that lets make love all the time period at some point. I do belive it's actually called the honeymoon period.

That's usually the point when we as adults realise that we are in a grown up relationship and dig in or we cut loose and look around.

 

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