I dont usually post on here but did so around 12 or so months ago.

I was being bullied at work by 2 females who were also together out of work.

At the time of posting I was off work on long term sick due to stress and was being supported by DH, my GP who was brilliant and a counsellor provided by work who was absolutely amazing.

Anyway, to cut a very long story short, I was bullied for over 10 months in many ways, (exclusion, rumour starting, ignoring, nasty comments, unfounded complaints etc etc) It all came to a head in may 2007 when I couldnt take any more after being told I was useless excuse for a woman because of infertility, I instigated the grievance procedure at work and was moved to another station.

My work carried out what appears to have been a shambles of an investigation and because people were scared to stand up, they found there was no case to answer.

After 5 months of being off sick, I went back to work in a different station and slowly built up a new rapport with new colleagues as well as facing up to the possibility I would come face to face with one or both of them at one time or another. One of them went off sick for 12 months so i didnt have to deal with her and the other one never said a word to me whenever I saw her, she tried to be over friendly to my crewmate but that was it. I usually left the room so I didnt have to look at her and so she had no opportunity to use any situation to get at me.

2 months ago, the other one came back to work and the first time I saw her the comments started, I managed to keep a straight face when she was there but as soon as she had left the station, I cried in the toilets, called my husband and blubbed for ages.

The 2nd time I did the same, the 3rd time I decided enough was enough and made myself stay in the room telling myself that they had driven me out of one workplace, they werent going to do it again.

I just ignored her and carried on doing what I was doing, the next time she was over the top friendly which made me laugh because I finally realised that she was affected by me and my "lack of response" far more than I was bothered by her intimidation. I know it sounds corny but it was literally like a ray of light, I finally saw them for what they were, small weak and rather ugly people.

Since then I have seen them both on several occasions, my heart no longer thumps in my chest when I see them and it now they who leave the room not me. I feel so much better that I finally confronted my demons, dont get me wrong it was soooooo hard but I did it and I have come out the other side the stronger person.

I just wanted to come back on here and tell those who offered support that I am back on my feet, it was a tough journey, one which I felt like ending in many different ways but the way it has ended now, is the best possible one.

So thanks to all of you who gave support and for those of you who are still going through tough times, keep strong, things will get better, just talk to those who know and lean on those who offer support, I promise you will get through it.

my best wishes to you all, I am here if you need someone who knows what it feels like.

mrs.f