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kat40

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Message #:699.1
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Date:10-Jun 16:49
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Message: i'm having difficulties at work right now and i need some feedback.
I work with two other women, both junior in rank to me and on a day to day basis i am the senior person there. These two women are trying to take over, or at least this is what it has felt like recently. They're two quite different characters but about the same age and i'd say from similar backgrounds professionally, both have worked in the company for some years and are experienced in their field. They chose to come to the dept i work in having done 'as and when' work for us and up until recently [we took on one two years ago and the other one fairly recently, a few months back, having liked her standard of work and knew her from previously]
they undermine me at frequent intervals, have made decisions about customer care without consulting me and putting me in a very difficult position only last week by changing things without consulting me. They decide what they're going to do when they're going to do it and have recently tried to instigate new opening and closing times of the dept.
i know this is probably not as bad as some experience but one leads the other on
they've booked time off work together to go to mandatory training sessions without consulting me and then i get the blame after our immediate manager tells me that this is fine but his boss emails me to say i shouldnt' allow it; i didnt arrange it in the first place but i didnt email her back as i dont do petty squabbling and certainly not by email
i have confronted both of them [heart pounding blood pressure sky high!] and asked them not to bring this attitude to work, and last week we met with our immediate line manager who is away this week who asked them veyr nicely to please remember who is the senior member of staff ie him and yet we never see him and he never responds to my emails or that of my colleague who works opposite me
i've been acccused by both of them of having an attitude problem yet it is they who are hostile and un co operative
what on earth can i do?
last week they reduced me to tears as they deliberately sabotaged a customer's care without consulting me and as a consequence, an vulnerable individual had to wait all day for her transport home
what will they do next?
i think the issue of the shift times [which the recently employed woman changed within five minutes of her joining] has been resolved but i'm fairly dreading going to work on friday as i worry about what reception i will get
i'm loathe to make any fuss as i am sure they could make things very unpleasant
they exclude me from conversation and while the newer one does talk to me the other one has been very off with me lately, she seems to follow the other's lead
it's caused me a lot of worry and stress
i did start to wonder if i was getting paranoid but my other colleague who job shares says she has had similar experiences
i have had to ask the older employee [she's been with us a couple of years] more than once to do something, she's argumentative and is happy to sit back and let others get on with things; to be fair the newer one of the two will at least get on with it and w hile neither are verbally hostile i just feel uncomfortable and rue the day we hired them
i'm just sick of fighting them as that is how it feels
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Message #:699.2 in response to 699.1
From:cl-redcrx72  Member Icon
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Date:13-Jun 10:05
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Message:

apologies for such a short reply.

When you say that your colleague (that you job share with) has noticed this too, is it because she is receiving the same sort of treatment as you?

Could she back you up if you report the attitude to your superiors? If they are putting customers care in danger then you really do need to report this matter.

You need to keep notes of every incident and if necessary use it for a report to your bosses. If you boss isnt taking this seriously then go higher.

 

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Message #:699.3 in response to 699.2
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Date:15-Jun 13:24
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Message:

thanks for that
yes my colleague has been on the receiving end; ie she says they exclude her from conversations and decide on the workload and take little or no notice of her
she emailed our manager who has done little to be honest to rectify the situation

things are ok ish at the moment but it's enforced to be honest, as long as they do the job thats fine,i just want a peaceful work environment for us and the clients

what got me angry the other week was that they took it into their own hands to re assign transport ie turn away the people i'd booked to take an elderly lady home and so then she had to wait all day for alternative means of getting home. I just wish they'd consulted me first! anyway, that was sorted out but what worries me now is what will they do next?
i cant trust them at all and my colleague and i are of the firm belief that it's the newer one of the two thats the problem, the ringleader in all of this. Things were fine before she got her permanent position. We certainly didn't see this coming!



Edited 15/06/2009 13:53 ET by kat40
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Message #:699.4 in response to 699.3
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Date:17-Jun 00:30
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Message:

the troublemaker has resigned!

Edited 17/06/2009 00:31 ET by kat40



Edited 17/06/2009 00:31 ET by kat40
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Message #:699.5 in response to 699.4
From:cl-redcrx72  Member Icon
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Date:18-Jun 12:28
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Message:

crikey

i bet you didnt see that one coming :)

I hope things improve for you now.

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