Thanks for your advice - will check out the board.

Not sure if I can pin my partner down to a month or even a year! But its nice to know that there are other people out there with similiar feelings - I thought I was going mad.

Hi

I a way I kind of know the feeling. Even though your older and have been together for longer with your partner.

I’m 19 and I’ve been with my boyfriend for 9 months. I have been feeling broody since I could remember. I think it was when I first got with my boyfriend who is 3 years older than me.

Then the feels got stronger and I spoke to him about babies in general but then I told him about my feels and he said he’d have children right now if he could and he said he has been thinking seriously about it all.

Lately it’s been getting so bad; I’ve been looking on the internet and books about conceiving and labour etc. When my boyfriends sister had her child I just didn’t want to go to the hospital. I was so jealous of her and didn’t want my feelings to be shown.

I did go to the hospital though and even though I didn’t really talk much I was still happy for the new addition to his family. When we was on the way home I was crying all the way back and my boyfriend asked me what was wrong and I just blamed it on the hospital because at the same time at the end of his sisters pregnancy I was diagnosed with diabetes and was sick of the hospitals.

Then I started to worry about when we did start trying for a baby about my diabetes affecting me and our children. So I was put off a little by it all but now the feelings back and the way I get over it a little is I play more with my friends children and because my job is a childcare worker I just spend more time joining in while the children play and not pretend as such but my mind is so focused on looking after other peoples children. I’d rather do that for a few more years before settling down.

Hope my story helps. Just showing your not alone and jealously is in everyone.          

I dont feel that your stupid though.

Hello Dizzybizzy,

I hope everything works out well for you. 

I just wanted to tell you how I was feeling in a similar situation. 5 years ago when I was 25 I met my future DH for the 1st time (international Internet dating, 2.5 months of daily talking  sometimes for hours online, then we met each other in real life).  I had a feeling staright away I wanted to have a family with him and a baby (not just one day in future but SOON! :)).

I was desperate but ,of course, was trying not to show it to him not to frighten him.  Though he liked me and was falling in love with me gradually (I fell in love with him within 3 days:), honestly) he wan't sure if I'd be a good match for him - maybe too young, not mature enough for him as he is 13 years older than me.  Luckily for me he hasn't been married before and didn't have a child before.

We got married after 11 months of knowing each other.  After the marriage I was temporary at work and my DH advised me not to try for a baby before I become permanent.  So after 3 months of being a temporary member of staff, I got a permanent job and on the 1st of January 2006 we started TRYING!!! :)) LOL  I remember the date.

I was feeling very jealous looking at pregnant women and wondering HOW could they get pregnant as I wanted to get pregnant Soooo much too.  It took us 7 months to get pregnant - not long but it was long enough to wait for it.  Now we have a lovely boy who will be 2.5 y.o. in October.  

My point is it's NORMAL and natural to feel jealous if someone has what You want to happen to you so much. 

Maybe talk to your BF about how you are really feeling and what you really want from life at this point  in your near future -  to have your OWN baby with him (because you love him and want to have a family with him).  Tell him you don't pressure him into anything, just want to share your true feelings with him and want to know his honest opinion on that.   Talk to him about this serious subject when he is approachable, relaxed, not stressed and in a good mood.  E.g.my DH has a good mood after he had his dinner (something nice or sometimes something special and very tasty+ a nice dessert is an extra bonus :)), on his pay day (lol), on weekend when he is not stressed about his work, after good and passionate intimate moments. 

You know your BF's best moods yourself and what helps to create them.  So find the right time and talk to him about it.

Sunny Girl