Hi,

First of all i feel like i could have written your post myself, about a year ago i was in exactly the same situation (even down to the fact that he is 5 years younger than me).

I had been married for 8 months (together for 10) and i felt exactly the same, i loved my husband so much and the thought of not being with him was horrible but i kept thinking there was more out there and that i wasn't sure i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.  We were arguing all the time and i came close to leaving so many times.

I met someone at work, whenever we went out in a group it would always be me and him left at the end and after a while it lead to more (although i never slept with him), this went on for about 6 months.

I actually posted a few messages on here and after allot of help from people it I realised that I really wanted my marriage to work,  It was really hard work but now we get on better than we ever did.

Take it from me, its not easy living with the fact that i cheated on my husband, so like everyone has said you have to ask yourself if its really worth it, can you get through the bad patch in your relationship.  I just know that if i could go back i would never do it again

S x x