hi chaps,

i guess this is really a message that should be given by a CL, but just wanted to clarify the guidelines on mailing through profiles if that's okay?

i don't think that people really should approach people through private messaging without first making themselves known on the board. also, it's not a dating site so i don't think it's appreciated if people send dating-type emails giving and requesting personal info.

saying that, it's always nice to get nice emails so anything from genuine members on board-related topics is great. so why not get yourself on the forum, make yourself (and your opinions!) known and then take it from there?!

anyone got anything to add?

door xx

Hi Door,

Don't worry - it's a valid point and I'm glad you raised it if this is something that's bothering you.

You're absolutely right that this isn't a dating site and this board should not be used to matchmake. Personally I don't reply to people who I don't know from the board already.
I'm actually notoriously bad at replying to emails that get sent to me - firstly cos often they get put in my spam folder automatically, and also cos it's an old email address which I check very rarely but I'm not able to change it over. Grr.

But basically, I think what I'm trying (in a very long-winded way) to say is that you're under no obligation to respond to any email sent via the member to member email function. If I were you, I'd keep the option available to people (cos I agree - it is nice to get emails from people you "know") but just like in real life, I need to know someone in a "public" location before inviting them to something "private."

:-)

hello!

no not a bad experience at all, though i have been contacted by someone who seems a little confused as to the function of the site and the personal email bit.

just wanted to clarify so that all new people know the lay of the land :)

door xx