Hi

Just a bit of a rant really as everyone in the 'real' world seems to have moved on and expects me to!

I'm into the 3rd week of seperation, which is fine and all, but I seem to be having just a really bad few days all of a sudden.

I'm starting to panic I can't do this on my own and so scared I've made the wrong choice.

My eldest daughter has started playing up and telling white lies at school and at home, she keeps throwing major temper tantrums. I've tried the whole chart thinh, but I don't seem to be getting through! She was a bit like this before her dad left, but I know everyone else is going to say its because I've broken up the home and caused this behaviour. I keep seeing everywhere I look about kids coming from broken homes and turning into the kind of kids I don't want.

As well as that, the tax credits office has stopped my payments for childcare because I'm being investigated. Up until 2 weeks ago everything was paid into my husbands account and he had all dealings with them. Now I've made a single parent claim and it turns out that he was claiming more than what I'm paying. So it looks like I'm going to have to pay a penalty, pay back money and not get anything further.

I had worked out that with the money I got from them and my wage I could have afforded to stay in my house with the kids, if that gets stopped, then I can't afford to stay.

I'm in a total mess about everything and have no idea where or what to do next! I feel like everything is about to crumble. I'm fed up of this brave face when inside I'm screaming!

Thanks

Hi lovey - sorry for the delay I've been a bit busy irl the last few days.

Right first things first,get yourself to the CAB.They will help you with the tax credit situation and it's free to get their advice.

Secondly - you're just having a bit of a panic don't worry re the whole breaking up thing.Most of us have been there at one time or another,it's perfectly natural and you will get past it,I promise.You CAN and WILL do this and come out the other side a stronger person.

As for your DD...my advice is to talk to the head at school.How old is she again lovey?The schools here are fab and have pastoral care where they have someone to help kids get through a difficult time outside school that's effecting their behaviour.Someone neutral to talk to.My Primary Head Teacher is wonderful and was a huge support.The help is out there for her,don't worry,she's just reacting.She's not going to end up one of these 'broken home statistics' lovey...

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