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Hi all - would really appreciate some advice. I split with my bf of four years last August as I found out he had cheated on me. We kept in touch and at Christmas decided that we would try again. We were living apart at this time, but saw each other a few times a week and it was all going well. Then I found out I was expecting his baby. He didn't want to keep it and we did go down the road of having a termination, but I couldn't go through with it. He also decided that it would have been the wrong decision. So, we decided for the sake of the baby to "pool our resources" as he put it as he said he wanted to support me physically, emotionally and financially, during my pregnancy and once the baby is born.
I moved back in with him a month ago and it's working out, kind of, but he's really distant and takes virtually no interest in me or the baby. He's not bothered about feeling it kick, or anything like that and there is absolutely no intimacy between us. He kisses me goodbye in the morning when he goes to work, but that's it. We have been out for dinner and try to do things together, with us both making an effort, but I just feel like I'm living with a stranger and it's really starting to put a strain on me.
I'm not sure I can live with him just because I'm better off financially and I have someone to help out with the domestic chores, because he's been brilliant in that respect. Should I just see how things go, now and until the baby is born (in 3 months) or should I leave him again and go it alone?
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