My Father died last August aged 91.He lived with me and my family for three yrs.During that time we looked after him and took him with us on holidays every year until his death. Following his death my Brother and his Wife have distanced themselves from us (not that it was any better when Dad was living)I have since learned that my Sister in Law is the person calling the shots.It all started just after my Mothers death (2000)Dad took the decision to have his name removed from the family home (its an old farmhouse with 100 acres of land)Are solicitor decided the best way forward would be to separate house and land ie one set of deeds for land and one set of deeds for house.It is now in joint names my Brother and myself.Following this I was told by a third party that my Sister in Law was under the impression that my Brother received everything land and house and that my Wife and myself were left out.When I explained that this wasn't the case she changed. She could never figure out who told me.I was also told that she attempted to manipulate the solicitor and my Father. I have discovered that her family will go to any lengths to get land and money should it be fair means or foul.Their are people who live in their own area who they never speak to including their own relatives. My sister in Laws brother was left a house and 63 acres of arable land in a will some years ago,when his father discovered this he cursed his son and swore he would never speak to his son again.I have explained to my Brother that this is the family he has married into and that he is been manipulated by his in laws.Needless to say my Brother has chose to ignore me,but then he was never the most honest either and like my wife said he would be in good company.How do I cope with this,do I walk away and ignore or do I continue to try and maintain contact with my Brother.

Dessie