dear people,
lately i've been feeling like shit. i feel really unacttractive to people...do all teenagers go through an "ugly phase" because i think i'm the only one who does. i think this is because i've never had a boy interested me. my friends do though so i feel left out ,outta place. lately i've been caring too much what other people think. like this morning, these yr 7s (11/12yr olds) were laughing at me and saying probably jokes about me because they all has smirks on their faces. i wanted to just say "f*** off" to them or say a witty joke like "dude you havent even reached puberty yet".:L. but instead i stood there and took it. i feel people could take advantage of me because i don't like voilence or swearing or anything i feel like a passive little girl, is that why im unattractive. at school, i reckon im labelled as a "geek". :/
my friend is even smarter than me and she isnt called a geek and has 3 BOYS!!! liking her, :/..maybe it's because she's really pretty whislt im the ugly duckling. how can i be beautiful ? what do guys like ? in my 14 years of life, no one has ever liked me, im just that person friend..ie, when i was walking somewhere with my friend today is school, every one was calling her name and i felt invisible. i feel worthless,useless,helpless, like a wasted lifee :/
i dunno anymore ? x

ps. my mother says i can post here since im underage.

Hi there Angie, sorry you had to wait for a reply but I have had computer problems and been unable to post.

I'm glad your mum let you post on here. Fine about you being underage as long as you have adult support to help you through replies. Be warned there won't be many, this is a very quiet board.

I think most teenagers go through the stage where they feel unattractive, unloved etc. It is all part of growing up. Your hormones have kicked in big time and this can cause all sorts of upsets. Doesn't really help that said hormones can cause spots, greasy hair and skin!!!!! Ask your mum's help on this. Maybe she could help you choose a shampoo and or facial wash to help.

Try not to let others upset you. It really isn't worth the bother, especially when you are not even sure they were actually talking about you. Remember too that if you do make yourself an easy target then those idiots will wind you up again given the chance.

Don't imagine either that everyone else has loads of friends. Just isn't true. OK, some of the more noisy ones who go around in gangs might look like they have a lot of friends, spend a brilliant time after school. They could be just as nervous and lacking in confidence as you though. They just have a different way of handling it. Don't imagine either that you are not loved. I'm not talking her about having a dreamy boyfriend around who adores you but about the way your mum and other family members REALLY care about you.

Hi angie

Oh what a tale of woe- my heart goes out to you!

I think the best thing you can wear to make the boys notice you is a smile.This has been my attitude for many many years-I smile at complete strangers-some look at me gone out, but others respond by smiling back!

Greet others with a smile every day and they will smile back.Look happy even if inside you are crumbling.

Pass compliments too- boys love to be told their hair looks cool etc etc, although they may just shrug their shoulders!

The only way to have a friend is to be one.Be friendly towards others, share your sweets, be interested in their opinions, and try to stop focussing only on your own feelings of inadequacy.Eventually the tide will turn.

When I was at school I was told 'these are the best years of your life'.Well I can assure you that they are not!

My best years have  been since I left school, oh yes.Maybe the school environment is making you feel this way.All types of kids all pushed in together.It's been much better since i left school and could choose the type of people I want to mix with.I am much happier now than I ever was at school!

Auntie