Me and my fiancé have been together for 3 and half years we are currently having to live with his parents as we are waiting for a new house to be finished, we should have been in the house at the end of September and due to too many ongoing issues and bad communication they are only 'fairly confident' that we will be in before Christmas!

This is affecting everything in our relationship, sex life is bad, he is always tired and so snappy its unreal. We both have our episodes of not wanting to talk about the house but it seems that mine aren't allowed but his are and it seems everytime I do have one he says something like I'm not going to talk to you about at all anymore or I'm only going to talk to my parents! The last few days have been a nightmare after a phone call I made to the developers with no positive news again and then having to relay this to him, he seems to have snapped, doesn't want to talk to me, touch me, barks or snaps at me if he does have something to say. But he is happily interacting with his parents and texting friends and colleagues, so why me??

We just had a big blow up which he has made bigger than it actually is by saying he gets so annoyed at me that he just wants to walk away, he wants more time alone and other stuff along those lines.

It is his birthday on Friday and he says he doesn't care about it that he doesn't want any of his family to be at the birthday dinner I was planning now!

I don't know what to do, I don't want our lives to just become hell because of this house and god knows how much our relationship is suffering!

Hi, am in a similar situation only am married with two v young children <2. We moved into our new self-built home last year only to discover a number of serious flaws which the contractor has failed to remedy 12 mnths later. This is putting huge pressure on us as 1. we are paying a mortgage but basically we are only able to live on bottom floor. Upstairs has no insulation = Virtually unhabitable during winter. 2. Our youngest is now ready for his own room. Technically we are living in a four bedroom house but are using two rooms downstairs as make-shift bedrooms. Therefore we have no bedroom for #2 so he is still sharing with us. 3. There are various ongoing legal steps now.

All of this is hugely hugely stressful. To be honest I am sorry we built our own home as our relationship has totally suffered and deteriorated. This was supposed to be our dream home which is now a total nightmare. My DH is virtually unrecognisable in terms of personality, I do understand what you mean by snappiness etc. I can't do anything right in his eyes. I'm on maternity leave and should be enjoying our home but every evening I dread DH arriving home as I know it will be another row about what I supposedly haven't done right that day.

I am sticking this out because we have been badly let down with our house and I won't let my marriage disintegrate too. I still love DH and all the qualities I fell in love with are there somewhere. I'm hoping that we can ride this out.

Give your fiance some time but I for one know how difficult that is when everything just seems wrong.

Hope it all works out