hi i have been with my partner for 6 years married for 18 months and have a 7 month old baby and im so unhappy and dont feel secure in my marriage, my husband is a lovely guy but also has a few bad points which i am now going to explain we have just got back from a trip away which was meant to be for my birthday we took him mum who is going through a bad time at the moment which im sick of hearing about now its gone on for 18 months anyway back to the trip we got up on the day of my birthday and i was expecting a card from my son and husband but didnt get one till 7oclock that evening which i was so annoyd with and when we went out on the evening him and his mum got absolutly drunk and i was the one who had to sort my lil boy out and put him to bed the next morning i had to ask my husband for an appology as he hadnt even thought about saying it i felt so hurt and let down as if the trip away was all about his mum and him, at home his mother is always phoning him to take her here there and everywhere and we feel coz shes on her own we have to go see at weekends as my husband works shifts and thats the time we should spend as a family, he never gets up and says what do you want to do as a family today he doesnt help me with the bills and it sounds really bad but its as if hes no get up and go unless its for his mum and i feel as if he doesnt give a monkeys how i feel we row over his mum all the time and im sick of it as i want a fun loving relationship and for my baby to grow up happy but he also uses him as a weapon if i say i dont want to go with him and his mum for the weeking its well im taking baby with me and then we row coz i should have a say where my baby goes, and when we do row and make up he cant just give me a cuddle, he makes gestures to have sex and i feel awkward i ant sure if this is time to call it quite or try one more time hes also hurt me in the past he had an affair with another woman and slept with her in my bed and we dont drink much but when we do because he doesnt talk to me when he has a problem he holds it all in and explodes when hes had a drink so we dont go out as a copule anymore i had to call the police the last time ,, the story goes on and on. please has anyone been in my position or can anyone help me .

many thanks

Hi
I feel for you...I really do.
Can I ask whether your DH has always been like this? You have been together for 6 years so you should know him well.
What has changed?
Has he never paid the bills?
Has he always been a lazy so and so except for his mum?
Do you have a good relationship with his mum?
Has he ever put you first in your relationship?
Do you have any support from your friends/family?

Just trying to understand a few things.

Love TSx