Hey,

Thanks for your advice and your congratulations on our wedding, yes things are getting busy!

I am going to bite the bullet and sit my nan down and explain my side of the story, then its up to her, at least I can say I tried.  A neutral place sounds good, maybe i'll invite her out to lunch one day.  As for my sister, i'm at a loss.

Hi

I think your dad is well out of order and I don't think he is right to cut you out of the will, parents should treat their children all the same, irrespective of favouritism, okay your sister may be struggling atm but it won't always be like this, she and her partner will sort themselves out in time, a lot of people are struggling to make ends meet and unless your sister approached your directly for money then to be honest it is none of your dad's business. He doesn't know your financial circumstances and planning a wedding is very expensive.

If he wants to bail her out then that is his perogative but he has no right to emotionally blackmail you. I am shocked at your Dad tbh, I think he is using this episode as an excuse to make you feel marginalised and pushed out and giving the favoured child more of a hand up.

I think if I were you I would be considering a family free wedding lol with just you, you partner and few close friends. It doesn't sound as though you have much emotional closeness or consideration from any of your family members. Perhaps, hard to swallow as this might be, you need to just accept that your family don't value you as much as they should and you might be better off without them at your wedding. Whatever you decide I hope you have a lovely day.

Hey

Thanks for your advice, sometimes it helps when people say your not the selfish and unresonable one.  I do wish things could be different, but to be honest, I don't think I can ever forgive my dad for what he has done, and believe me he has done worst. 

Anyway, thanks it really helped.

hey all,

Just an update on my situation.  My partner and I managed to sit my nan down and explained the difficult situation to her.  She fully understood and agreed that my dad was out of order for saying what he did to me. She has agreed to come to our wedding and to not tell my dad.  My sister is a completely different story all together and apparently she would love to see me again.  I'm not so sure.  I would love some kind of relationship with her and my nephew and niece, but we are so different, i'm not sure if that can happen.  But she has told my nan that there is no horrible feeling towards me.  So I will give that so thought.  But feel much happier that my nan understands and will be at my big day.

Toriannne