Hi

I have had quite a roller coaster life for the past two years and was just getting things back on balance and I met a lovely guy on holiday but on the last day. We exchanged details and kept in touch by email, text, phone and I thought what a lovely guy. He is due to come over to England soon and I was getting really excited.

Suddenly he stopped contact, just out of the blue, just like that, I didnt want to appear desperate as we have been building our relationship over the past 4 months long distance, but I havent heard anything from him. He initiated phone sex (which I have never ever done in my life) so I did my best and we were fine. He called me but I missed his call the next day. And now nothing.

I am not going to chase him and bother him cus if  he isnt interested then I always let them go, I had enough mind games with my previous bf to last a lifetime.  So what do I do, leave it or what? Its all new to me, I just think its a shame, or maybe theres more to it, I cant let this screw me up.

Any advice would be more than welcome.

Thanks

Hi shadow1,

Sorry to hear this has happened. Did you try to call him back after you missed his call? Or have you tried to get in touch with him since then at all? Text? Email? Maybe if you haven't tried to contact him, he's thinking the same thing as you, ie. I'm not going to chase her and bother her. And when did this all happen? How long has it been since you last heard from him?

You're right not to let it screw you up, whatever is going on.

Sorry I haven't been much help yet, but I'm trying to get the bigger picture. I need DETAILS LOL :)))

RosGael

Hiya

Thanks for your response, I did something that I normally dont do, I ended up emailing him and saying is everything ok, I kept it real light and not bunny boiler or angry. He did respond, his phone is broken and he has been working really hard. I do believe him, he is a nice guy, I have been through the worst relationship previously I think I have picked up some really bad habits and vibes from my ex he was a mind game player, cheat amongst many other things and I think I lost faith in people as a result.

I have never been in this situation before, I still cannot believe that this guy has kept in touch with me after only 4 hours of chatting on my last night of my hols. I am so flattered, really.

I am not sure where it is going if it does, I have no preconceptions of relationships after what I have been through and although my heart is still broken I feel this guy will hopefully restore at least some faith.

So it was a wrong assumption from me and I hope this explains it to you but I appreciate it so much that you responded, I thought it was because of the phone sex and he thought I was some kind of slut or something, but Im not it was really strange to do that but I thought it would help.

Thanks

Hello, and welcome to the board!

I personally would e-mail or text him to ask if he is still interested. If he has made the effort to keep in contact for the last 2 years, I think you deserve to know the reason why he has suddenly stopped all contact...

HTH!

CL On http://messageboards.ivillage.co.uk/iv-ukrllongdist/

Hi

It hasnt been 2 years just a couple of months, but I have emailed him and he said his phone was broken, I do believe him, but it made me realise that I got into a panic and shouldnt have. There is no basis for our relationship and because I have had a very hard time previously with a real mind breaker of a bf I have applied the same mentality to him. But I am getting back on the level now.

Thanks - I am so glad I didnt do the usual and say oh forget it because that is what I usually do!!