Hi all

It's a bit quiet here atm but hopefully someone will have some words of wisdom!

In case you need a reminder my situation is this - bf and I live 2 hours apart. We want to move in together but we can't until one of us finds a job in the other's area. I tried for 6 months to find work in my bf's city without success. In August we changed tack and decided my bf would come to me. Despite him firing off a few applications online he's had no luck so far.

The latest hitch is that his boss has now given him a speech about the big plans she's got for the business and how it involves him (funny how this coincided with her noticing he wasn't 100% happy, hmm...). IF these plans come to fruition, it won't be til end of next year. In the meantime, she underpays him for the role he does and she knows it. To cut a long story short, he took the job because he could see the potential of the business. From what I can tell he's achieved plenty in the 18 months he's been there but it seems his boss 'can't' reward him for that and instead is dangling this new carrot in front of him.

This has really messed with his head. Whereas before he was sure he wanted to leave and come down to me he's now been distracted by the thought of what might happen at the end of next year! He's promised any decision he makes will be made with me, but tbh I'm just so frustrated at yet another obstacle in the way of us being together that I'm not sure I can look at it objectively.

The way I see it is, if he stays there without a pay rise he'd be crazy. We'd also be back to me trying to find a job in his city. Based on my luck so far that could take ages and the thought of doing long-distance indefinitely doesn't bear thinking about. If on the other hand he makes a stand and gets a decent pay rise which compensates for a longer commute, we could at least maybe live somewhere between where he works and the next big town so I could job-hunt in both areas, iyswim.

I'm wary of these 'big plans' his boss has. Not because I don't think my bf can deliver, I just have my doubts that she'll do right by him. Being selfish for a minute, I'm also p'd off that I thought we had a  plan and now it's all up in the air again and we're no closer to being together like a normal couple. This has been hanging over us for the last few weeks and I keep getting tearful when I think about it. We're going to try and get our heads around it this weekend but tbh I'm not sure either of us has an answer.

Other couples seem to manage the re-location thing easily enough and I'm just wondering where we're going wrong!!