Hi all,

Im going to try and keep this as short and sweet as possible.

Im 21 and just came out of a 3yr relationship after been cheated on 3 times and having a little girl together. Im now a single mummy to my 16month old daughter but felt really lonely as he had everything (other than our daughter of course)

I went to let off steam in town one day/night drinking and met the most amazing guy, we hit it off straight away and went home together (i admit i thought it would be a 1night stand) afterwards we kept in touch and started seeing each other. Problem being that i found out he is 39 (17 yr age gap) he is also seperated from his wife and filing for divorce, with 2 kids caught in the middle. I have let myself fall for him and couldnt imagine not having him in my life and he says the same about me and is very sweet with things he says about me and things he does for me. He's stuck by me through s*** with my ex and other problems i have had.

Am i crazy to be seeing someone in this situation (that we're both in) and with the age difference??? My dad is only 45 (i think) and my mum is 42 (i think) my mum is absolutley fine with the relationship but i dont think my dad will be as i havent told him yet but this guy is a breath of fresh air for me and my daughter and i dont want to ruin things with him or my family.

Please help :-(

Thank you for reading

Honeybee x

Hi there and welcome to the board,

I was in a relationship in the past with a man who was 16 yrs older than me and it lasted 8 yrs.It only ended because he changed his mind and didn't want children and I did so it can work.I don't think it's a question of age tbh but if you get on or not,if you're on the same wavelength.

If I were you I would take things slowly (easier said than done I know!) and just see what happens.Things can get complicated with divorce proceedings ect so just take things one day at a time and see if you still get on a few months down the line.

Good luck..

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Thank you for your reply.

I do feel totally comfortable with him and still have that new relationship buzz :-) my main concern is telling my father. I am his only daughter so he is obviously protective and can get rather 3rd "degreey" if you get my drift. I just dont know how to tell him in the right way so he has very little to come back to me with and i can assure him me and my daughter are happy with this man and i want him to be happy for me.... im so confuzzled lol

Honeybee x

Dads eh??

I'm 42 and mine is exactly the same.

All you and your partner can do is try to show you dad that you are happy and that he is treating you well. All he will want is for you to be happy and not get hurt and he is bound to be wary with the age gap and also with how your ex treated you. Take it slow, let your dad see that your new man is good to you and makes you happy and I am sure he will come round.  YOu will alway be his litle girl (even when you are 42) and I don't think any man is ever good enough in our dad's eyes for us lol.

Good luck.

Love,

Hi Jen,

Thanks for your reply, doesnt get any better with age then no? lol.

Well the meeting of my dad and partner has been done (on saturday at a family do) OH was really nervous, didnt particulary want to go which i cant blame him. Everything went fine though, my dad shook his hand as well as they rest of my family did. Dad chatted with him most of the night about anything and everything and at one point in the night OH pulled me to his side in front of my dad and used the words "i love this woman and one day i will marry her" i think i went bright red but my dad winked at him, shook his hand and said "welcome to the family"

Dont think it could have gone better but now have worries about my ex lmao... its never ending. :-(

Thanks again

Love,

Honeybee