Hi everyone,

I just want to say a big "thank you" to everyone who replied to my earlier thread about my relationship break-up. I felt dreadful that weekend but immediately started to feel better for posting here, for two reasons, I think. The first is that when you're feeling down, it's great and really helpful to receive all that TLC from people who've (with one or two exceptions) never met me or spoken to me off the board. The second is that when you're going through something emotionally horrible, your thoughts are jumbled and verbalising them and having people respond to them brings some clarity. I'd especially like to thank Shemy for listening to me bawling on the phone a few nights earlier!

I started to sleep better during the course of that week and have now returned to going back to sleep straight away if I do wake up (still get the damned hot flushes from the drug!). I'm enjoying my own company again (well it's not so hard if you've been used to being alone before) and watching the X Factor :-) My RL friends have also been brilliant.

I always said to myself that even if it didn't work out, I'd have had a great time with him and I did. We had wonderful holidays and shared much laughter and good times. Looking back though, the writing was on the wall but I just hadn't noticed and I think (I know) you were all right when you said that he used the text message I sent him as an "out" and must have been thinking about ending things before I sent it. I also know you were right when you said he wasn't prepared to compromise and that it takes two to make things work. I'm quite easy-going so I didn't mind being the one to do most of the compromising when it came to things like what we'd do that day but in the end, I felt as though I was being subconsciously pushed to make compromises that would have meant not being true to myself and I think that's what tipped me over the edge to send that text.

My goodness, it's amazing how clearly I can see things now compared to just a few weeks ago! The thread and your responses were the turning point so thank you all sooooo much!

The one thing I've thought throughout this is that it's bad enough dealing with a relationship break-up without the added hurt of infidelity. Thank goodness that's one thing I didn't have to deal with.

Love to all,

Good to "see" you back Sweetie,

Talk soon.

 

CL on Coping with Infidelity, The Infidelity Debate, My Affair,  Families Affected by Addiction , Coping with a Crisis

Thanks, Karen and Daisy. Your support was great and meant a lot.

Something inside me snapped after that thread and I can't imagine starting again with him now. So yay, onwards and upwards!

Hope you are both well.

Love,

Hi ME

"I'm enjoying my own company again (well it's not so hard if you've been used to being alone before) and watching the X Factor :-) "

Welcome to my life!!

Glad to hear you've picked yourself up a little.  Now, about the X-factor..... Or should we start a new thread!