Hi all

Well.. after 8 years of flirting  and 5 years of physical affair, I have just finished with my MM.  He has been married just over a year now and wife is expecting and I was in the background all the time (shame on me)

So ive just sent the final email... letting him know in no uncertains terms that its over.... ive already had 2 txts from him which ive ignored.  Why do i feel I should reply ?  Ive made things very clear

I feel a real sense of relief and im looking forward to my first few steps towards getting my life back on track

Wish me luck x

Thanks for listening x

Hi Girly42,

Good luck!

Hold on to your sense of relief and be proud of yourself for making your decision and taking the action you have.

No doubt you'll have strong moments and not so strong ones; it may help you to take steps to hinder/slow you down if you do get the urge to contact him or reply to his messages eg. delete his number, block his email address etc It won't stop you... but by the time you've had to find/remember the number or email address you may have regained your previous strength. Or when you feel the need, wait 15 minutes and then see if the urge has passed...

No point in replying to him; remember that this is about you now and you owe him no further explanations or conversation.

Keep posting, it does help!

Good luck again!

IEM

Hi  thanks for that

6 txts now and an email  I havent replied.  Anytime I tried to end it before I always left a little opening in case he wanted the get in touch.  This time I havent....

im still feeling strong :) x

Hi Girly42

I wish you all the best in the process of getting over your affair, but I would suggest that if you're receiving his texts and emails, then you have left an opening. Why not block his number and email address?

Love,

Hi
Well done on your new resolve...but how is this time different from the last few time s you have tried to "end" it?
You have still left the door wide open as he can still text you, email you and even call you.
Is it because you want to see how much he hurts when you say good bye? How much he grovels so you feel wanted because you know he is sleeping with his wife and getting her pregnant?
If you have no strength to really close the door and turn your back( making sure you can never know whether he tries to contact you) then think about the poor wife who is pregnant and married to this cheating bas***. Even if ending it is not for yourself then do it for her...for their unborn baby...do yourself proud...
CLOSE the door! There are so many men out there ... if that's all you want...but then again you know YOU deserve better...YOU deserve more than a cheating MM. You have wasted 8 yrs....do you want to be here 8yrs later...still living in the background as this man gets on with his life?

Stick to your guns hun...it is HARD but WORTH it.
Best wishes
TSx