hi

i was on sex with bf during periods and it was not first time we having sex during period but before that we hav sex on the 3rd or 4th day of my period but this time it was on 2nd day and during sex there was very bad smell, i want to know it was due to periods and will that smell goes off when after period because i am worry because i am worry will this goes away or not  and now this is the 6 day of period i am not bleeding this just stain in my panties and still have little bit smell and  please if any one have idea what is it et me know and if this smell stays still how can i get rid of it, what should i do, i will wait for any reply.

Hi

You need to go to the doctors to get yourself checked out. You could have something called Bacterial Vaginosis which is an infection that is very common. Often no discharge but a strong fishy smell.

A course of anitibiotics will clear it up

Lou

Ismi

This man isn't your boyfriend, he is your cousin, and he is married to another woman who has trusted you enough to let you live under their roof and look after their children.  The man is using you for sex, as i'm sure you know by now, and you do not seem to be doing anything to stop this.  I understand it is hard to say no, i have been in that situation where you are completely infatuated with someone and will do anything they say, but you HAVE to get out of this.  No-one can do it for you.  I have read all your posts on here, and i have to say nothing i have ever read on ivillage frustrates me as much as your continuing posts do.  You had sex with him while his wife was in hospital giving birth to their baby? Can you imagine the pain she would feel if she found out about all this?

You are now having sex with this man even when you have your period.  Is your period not the perfect reason/excuse to say to him "NO" and not let him near you.  Does he force himself on you? It sounds like you go along willingly.  Do you have a lock on your bedroom door? If not, is there no way you can jam it shut at night, at least, so he can't sneak in while the rest of the house is asleep? He won't be able to mention to anyone else that your door appears to be jammed, as they would question why he was trying to get into your bedroom during the night.

You have to do something to stop this!!! Start taking your pill now, otherwise you WILL become pregnant.

For goodness sake, help yourself! You have had so much advice and so many opinions on here, but you don't seem to be trying to change anything.

Good luck, i really am so concerned for you. 

hi rose,

well thanks for your concern to me, i think you and other people are right here might be there also my wiilingness also in it, if i can stand strong he cannot force me but i gone really helpless when he came to me i dont no how he make me to want him. i dont no when he ask me and came to me i forget every thing what i am doing but you will not believe when he left or the dayswhen he is not with me i felt so regret evan i cry all night pray to god, ask the god to give me right guide and take away me from this bloody shit situation and at the moment i hate my self , i ask to God forgiveness but whe i sea him around me i forget every thig and do this shit.

iknow she trusted me and i am betrying her but now i never ask him by myself, is not he also cheating enough or more than to me to her as he had affair with a girl and now he has with me and he still claim he loves his wife and on her delievery date i went to sleep in my room after giving him dinner because i have to give him but i went to sleep becausei don want to happen anything because i know we are alone in house but he came in my room not just this i felt next morning when kids gone school and he knows after visiting his wife that she will be home this night he want the sex in morning i felt this but i made excuse and left the house to gsome where else untill the kids came back.

 i know my fault is more than anything else but i am trying to away from it but you people think i am not serous to do anything to away from this but believe me i am,  

There is no lock in any of he room in house evan not mine and its his house so i cannot do anything, i know every one said i have ti their house it is not possible if i want to i have to face to answer lots of question its not that easy as the people saying to me i cannot explain my situation more because i already explain alot you guys not aware all of my situation and i am scarecd to be caught to tell more sorry for that. But believe me i was not that kind of person i was very simple being to be loyality and honest. i never think to be thin like that for man unless the one i will merry i dont no how i fall in this shit i never dreamed that i will love or have this with anyother than my husband, my life was very simple nd innocet i believe in small hapiness but now i am stuk in this shit i really want to away from it but couldnot help myself.

i am trying to find a man with i cam merry because this wil be the way to away from their house and him. Please pray for me and dont hate me i need emotional support to encourage myself to move my life but you know i am badly stuk i get bored to talk anyother man never get the feeling that i feel for him, please keep guiding me.

YOu right i think lots people frustrated me  here so thats why i dont get any reply sorry for the shitty inconvinience to every one.

ismi 

Hi Ismi,

I don't hate you, and i don't like for you to think that.  I cannot speak for anyone else who has posted you advice, obviously, but i am sure they don't hate you either, it is just so frustrating to read your posts and not be able to help, which is what makes me and others "fed up" and feel like we are not getting anywhere.

Are you absolutely sure you are safe posting on here? Do you make sure to log out of ivillage and clear your history after every time you use the laptop? On my computer to clear the history, it is "Tools", "Delete Browsing History" then "Delete all". You might already be doing this but if not then it is important as otherwise anyone who uses the laptop after you can see what sites you've been on and read yours and others messages.  Sorry if i'm stating the obvious and you are already doing this.

I'm so glad to hear that you do not approach him anymore for sex, i think that's great, well done for not giving in to your urges to be close to him.  I can totally understand how you feel about him, especially if he is your first love/sexual partner, it is such a strong bond you feel towards him if it is anything like my experience. Men know this, he will know how strongly you feel for him, and he will use it to his advantage. I'm sure he knows that all he has to do is say a certain thing to you, or touch you in a certain way, and you are helpless. He does not sound like a nice man, i am sorry to say that since he is a relation of yours, but you have to try and think of all the bad things about him, and forget any nice moments as it is all false, he is doing it to get what he wants.  

It is really good that you are taking small steps to distance yourself from him, are you trying to keep the children around you so that he cannot "try anything" while they are near? I don't know how young the children are, but surely he wouldn't do anything while they were around.

Do you have friends you can go out and visit? Do you get time off from looking after the children? I know you say you cannot even go to the GP without someone coming with you, are you able to go to your church? Do you have one nearby? Maybe being in church and praying to your god would give you strength and the power to say no to this man.

You WILL get away from him, you just have to find a way. I know that is easy for me to say when i am not in your situation. Have you considered checking out the links thats that were given to you? About the womens refuges.

Please start taking your pill.  Good luck Ismi x