hey,

Sorry to hear abt all the stuff you going through..i agree with Sandybeaches..move on you cant wait around for him until he figures out what he wants..say you do wait around and he does not want to be with you all that heartache just to find that out not worth it...i had a similar prob with a male friend...told him jsut wanted to be friends..i loved spending time with him , thought he really did care about me was going through tough time...told me he wud always be there for me then he wanted to be a couple then he stopped talking to me, ignored my calls, texts etc was really stressed started having panic attacks.  This is the first time i found a good bloke friend who i felt good with.

Men seem to contradict themselves when you first meet them its all nice things are going smoothly then they suddenly put the breaks on and then they dont want to know you at all...there you are thinking yes we want the same things etc then he switches on you and says he does not want a relationship/settle down etc dunno men complain that they cant figure women out but i think we cant figure men out too..they are like jekyl and hyde, split personality lol sorry got carried away...MEN arrgh.

Just think of it this way if it was not meant to be dont force it to happen..i kinda believe in all that destiny, fate stuff maybe watching too many chick flicks lol if he is the one for you things will happen without you even trying just have faith, i think he maybe playing games that thing abt u smoking, handle your stress etc just excuses he knew this before right ? if you like someone these things dont matter and you change to cope with them, if he does not find another women then he will prob come back to you..dunno whether this all makes sense. 

You have to decide for yourself what you want..dont know whether you do any meditation but when i am confused by doing this it helps me to see things clearer and helps me decide what to do.  Just sit quietly and just take your thoughts away from everything that has happened... try it ..maybe it will help.

plse let me know how it goes.

take care

Thats harsh and really sorry to hear!!!

Guys unfortunately always contradict themselves and Ive recently got badly hurt from a guy who made him sound like the most wonderful person out there who really liked me so much and could see us together and that we were such a perfect match, he was just taking me for a ride to get what he wanted - into my knickers (i had to put it like that cos that was al he wanted) then f*cked off (please excuse my language)!!!

It sucks doesn't it.

I don't know how you know if you met the right man or not. Its so hard to trust guys these days they play reverse phycology and messes up your head. Make you feel bad when your not supporting them/not there for them so you show alot of love and care towards them (thats why i did to the guy i was recently seeing but not anymore) and they are just pure nasty and show no respect, love or care to you in return - at the end of the day they show their true colours and the type of person they really are.

At the end of the day its their loss, not yours, your worth and deserve so much better than pricks like them. Men today make me so ANGRY... !!!!!

Hope things work out well for you in the future!!

xx