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| Discussion Title: | Anyone else hate being single? |
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| Message #: | 1276.1 |
| From: | imprettyinpink  |
| To: | ALL |
| Date: | 24-Sep 22:14 |
| Replies: | 26 |
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I'm just wondering if anyone else hates being single.
I haven't had a proper relationship for 10 years and hate being on my own. It's pants not having anyone to do anything for and having no-one to do anything for you. I was ill for a week recently and physically couldn't get out of the house to get any shopping. Also, because I'm on my own, I can't go out to the cinema or for a meal out because there's no one to go with. It's my birthday soon and I'm dreading yet another birthday when I get nothing in the way of presents. It's not that I want gifts, rather that the lack of them highlights that I mean nothing to anyone.
I so miss physical contact such as the hugs and kisses and someone to chat to, someone to talk things through with etc.
Probably I'm just being selfish,
Pippa X
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| Discussion Title: | Anyone else hate being single? |
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| Message #: | 1276.2 in response to 1276.1 |
| From: | cl-alllurvedup  |
| To: | imprettyinpink |
| Date: | 24-Sep 22:36 |
| Replies: | 26 |
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Yes, there are so many things in your post that I agree with. I'm ill right now and I miss the hugs, the comfort and someone to bring me icecream! :) As for going out to the cinema or for a meal, I do that anyways. I have been to the cinema by myself before - ok I picked the old people cinema near me which shows quirky films and no one else I knew wanted to go, but I didn't let that stop me!
Don't you have a female friend you could go out to lunch or the cinema with? You're not being selfish at all - I think we all go through these moods of wanting that someone special to share things with... it's completely normal! (But there are also some great points about being single so don't lose sight of them.) :-)
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| Discussion Title: | Anyone else hate being single? |
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| Message #: | 1276.3 in response to 1276.1 |
| From: | summertime_girl |
| To: | imprettyinpink |
| Date: | 24-Sep 23:54 |
| Replies: | 26 |
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hey Pippa!
I feel for you, but I agree with what ALU said....
go to the cinema on your own if you wanna catch a movie just don't go on a Friday or Saturday evening - take yourself off to an afternoon screening - once you're sat down you can't chat to your companion in any case, so just go enjoy a film! As for eating out, yes it's rubbish if you like nice restaurants and don't have a partner but make the effort to invite your friends out - if they are all attached then suggest midweek so it doesn't interfere with them having to ask for the Golden Ticket to go out without their "other half"
regarding your birthday, can you not plan a night out where you invite your friends over for pizza and wine, or go out for the same...?
Just because you don't have a Significant Other does NOT mean you mean nothing to anyone, just try and focus on spending more time with friends and family and try and alter your mindset - OK 10 years is a long time but try and get out a bit more, not with the intention of meeting a guy but just to be sociable and boost your self esteem. I'm not gonna suggest "get a hobby" or "join an evening class" LOL but try and put things in your diary where you're not on your own all the time....
hugz xx
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| Discussion Title: | Anyone else hate being single? |
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| Message #: | 1276.4 in response to 1276.1 |
| From: | cl-alllurvedup |
| To: | imprettyinpink |
| Date: | 25-Sep 11:15 |
| Replies: | 26 |
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Hi Pippa, I just found this link for a starter, main course and drink for £10 at Bella Italia (they have restaurants all over the country and are very good IMO)
http://www.thatsbella.co.uk/ The voucher is valid until the end of October (only from Sundays to Fridays unfortunately) but hopefully it will give you a good reason to treat yourself and/or a friend without breaking the bank! :-)
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| Discussion Title: | Anyone else hate being single? |
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| Message #: | 1276.5 in response to 1276.4 |
| From: | summertime_girl |
| To: | ALL |
| Date: | 25-Sep 12:14 |
| Replies: | 26 |
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Something I have often wondered about is why there isn't a decent "singles scene" in large towns, not even here in London. I'm not talking about "mingling" nights where a venue is open to single men and women with a view to people pairing off (I once went to one of them with a friend it was dire, LOL) I just mean an easy way for people without partners to make platonic friends to socialise with where their existing friends are too busy with their partners and children to go out much. Everyone recommends that single people should join a club or look for a hobby if their social life is lacking, but that's easier said than done. If I was interested in pottery, learning a language, salsa dancing, well I would be doing it already!! Not everyone wants to take up something new just for the sake of it, or they can't commit to something that takes up regular evenings every week, or it can be costly. But there must be loads of single women who want new single friends to hang out with.
When I first moved to London I was in a relationship, my then-boyfriend quickly made loads of friends at the office as they were a social bunch, but it took a lot longer for me. I remember one occasion I was upset because he was going out with them a lot, and I was often stuck indoors on my lonesome. He turned round and said "well make some friends then!!" Like it was THAT easy!!!! I mean, if you are single and you go out somewhere and you spot an attractive guy you might be brazen enough to strike up a conversation with him and give him your number - that's acceptable. But if you see a group of girls about your age who all look like your sort of people, you can't just go up to them and say "hello, can I be your friend?" Can you imagine it!!
I once read a great book by Mike Gayle called "Brand New Friend" where the main character moved to a new town to be with his girlfriend but he really missed his mates and he ended up advertising in the local paper for friends to hang out with - with amusing results. But that was a work of fiction. There ARE websites where you can advertise for people to socialise with, but they seem to be most popular with young people who are in the UK travelling and want to meet other travellers from the same place (Australia, NZ, SA etc) possibly to do more travelling with, not natives whose existing friends have become too wrapped up in their own lives and don't make time for you.
Apparently in trendy Shoreditch they have established a modern version of the Women's Insititute where young women meet once a week and they still do some of the old-fashioned stuff like baking, knitting and other crafts but somehow they have made it cool and funky. But I can't see it taking off nationwide, even though it might be a good idea...
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