OMG,,,,

how much to organise...not getting married until 25th sept '10.....

Got my partners birth ceritifcate...came really quick..now we need to confirm the dates with registry office...

My sister in laws dad is a professional photographer....she said he will do our photos at cost price....just the basic lot......costing £400....that cost more than the wedding.....I was in tears to mum this morning saying we cant afford that......and to talk to my brother to tell SIL  that we cant have her dad...i feel so bad....my SIL can really kick off and I really dont fancy an arguement....

I dont know where to start for the wedding and i am panicking...alot.....I keep getting upset...and more and more people my parents suggest to come to the wedding...I just wanted a small wedding....

maybe no point in getting married...  I was a few weeks ago looking forward to it...Now i am dreading it....

I am generally having a bad week but this is making me feel worse...

What do I do????

any advice would be dearly appreciated...

huggles

Jayne

Hey hunni,

I too know the feeling of family inviting any old relative to our wedding whether or not
we know them?!?!?!? I too want a small wedding but feel so far that is not going to happen so I am going to tell my family (would you believe!!) that if they want to invite x,y,z
then they will indeed have to provide the payments for them as our (as in mine and df's) budget won't cover it.

Not really any great advice other than that from me hunni, but you aren't alone in this and I really feel for you. Sending huge hugs to you.

Love and hugs
Jen.xxx

 
Cl on Confessions Corner , Mum's Club May 08 , and Mum's Due Nov 09 

Hey,

I'm with you!  When we first did our "guest list" we asked both sets of parents who they wanted to invite and both told us it was our day and up to us!  My dad did ask if we could send an invitation to the lovely guy who designed our invites for us and we happily agreed.

Well, we sent our invitations out two weeks ago now and have had my DF's grandparents on the phone LOADS asking why were not inviting such and such...its doing my head in as we have ended up adding another six people to our day list - which i wouldnt mind, but like you wanted the day to be small and intimate with our closest family and friends and now its not - not only that our meal is £64 a head and we are struggling with our budget already...and are potentially going to have to drop something now:(

I took everything else at my own pace, completely!  and to be fair have only started to stress about the little things recently and thats because they are just starting to happen - i have lost a lot of weight and go for my final measurements on Monday for my dress to be made, bricking it as not totally at target yet (2.5lb off, lol) then we have to sample food and wine, pre-wedding photoshoot - the list is endless.....but just work out what you want and when you want it and go for it....i was told "doing something prompt doesnt mean your organised" - so true:)

HTH

hiya, just lurking as i used to be on this board last year (got married 05/09/08)... also i am a PA so have to be v organised.

here's my advice:

get a pen & paper and literally do a brain dump. throw down everything that's in your head onto the page. doesn't matter what order, just get it all down. nothing's too small or silly.

keep the list with you for a few days so that you can add to it whenever you think of something else.

then, get a fresh sheet of paper and start transferring the jobs/issues in a more orderly list, with the most important/urgent things first

then, think about your wedding date & how many months you have to play with, work backwards and give the things at the top of the list rough deadlines e.g. "book register office/church - by end Dec 09"

then keep this list in your bag with you all the time... there'll be times when you'll cross something from the top, only to add 3 things to the bottom! but i promise, you'll feel much more in control & you will get it all done in the end!

re the guest list, you must stick to your guns. tell your parents that if you haven't spoken to someone in 6 months then they're not invited. i don't know who's paying for your wedding - if they are then it's trickier, but they still cannot use the "we're paying" argument to get their own way. it is your wedding day. i was strict and explained it this way: i don't want any faces i don't recognise in my wedding photos!

Hope that helps?

k xx

hi

And thankyou

the registry office is booked ...so that is done...photographer booked and just needs a deposit...

Looking at a venue for the reception next weekend....

so much....

thankyou for all for the good advice....

huggles

jayne