Hello there, I just wondered if anyone would give me a quick opinion. Would anyone say it's a bit of a red flag if a bloke seems a bit too eager for you to keep mailing him? I'd only 'spoken' to this chap for a couple of days, I'd been pretty quick in replying to his messages (I've been off work this week so have had the time) but the other day, it had only been half a day since I'd read his latest message and because I hadn't replied instantly he mailed me again asking if he'd done or said anything wrong. (I literally had only read his email at 10am and he sent me this second one at about 5pm).

I mailed him back and said of course not, I'd just not had the time today. He did apologise and cited that because the site is a bit ping-pongy when it comes to emails he often wonders if he's done something wrong when a person doesn't reply back. Plus, he said I seemed one of the nicer, more sensible people he's encountered on the site.

Well, I sent him a proper mail that same evening, he replied the following morning (yestersday) now again, I read his mail in the morning but was busy the whole day so did not reply at all. I logged on today prepared to reply and yet' he's sent me  *another* reply to the last message I'd already sent him. I'm assuming he hasn't forgotten he's already replied and is just prompting me to get back to him.

He's does seem nice and I like his profile (he states clearly that he likes to take things slowly and to just be friends to start with) but I have to admit I don't really care for this seemingly unspoken demand to respond to him instantly. Perhaps I'm making something out of nothing, though.

Any other opinions?

Hi Moonpixie,

Welcome to the board.

I think this could be something that could get quite annoying. About a year ago i had a guy who seemed to be glued to contacting me, if he emailed and i hadn't replied later he would text instead, and if he had texted and i hadn't replied i'd get an email! And i did find it a bit much sometimes.

On one hand this guy seems keen but if he is sending emails asking if he has done or said something wrong then it makes him seem a bit on the paranoid side IMO. Perhaps as you go along more he will realise that you have been busy and start to settle down and await your replies rather than send more messages in between, but if he carries on this way and you don't feel comfortable with it then i would cease contact.

Good luck, do let us know how you get on.

Thank you for your opinion, Missy. That bloke who ckept contacting you sounded like a right pain. I don't know how you put up with it, lol.

This chap seems to have settled down a bit. Because I'm really only dipping my toe in OD, it's a bit overwhelming having someone so in your face initially. It would be nice to just maintain a steady flow of chat without it being really OTT.

Thanks again : )

Hi Moonpixie,

You're welcome, i am glad that your guy seems to have settled a bit more now with his messages.

Yeah the guy who i was in contact with back then was a bit much sometimes but unfortunately some of them seem to get a bit too carried away sometimes!

Good luck with the guy you're in contact with, keep us posted on how you get on.