Hi Trina Maree

Its a tough call. In many ways, your husband is right - this is a difficult time to step out of  secure job. The important thing is that he needs to feel right about it- if he makes a change for you, then it is unlikely to work. So your job is to help him explore his uncertainty and understand what is holding him back. He must be keen on change in some way to have put in all that study, so with the right support he will get there.

Serial achievers in the midst of change go through a time of incubation - a space of thinking, planning, exploring what the next step needs to be. This can be hard to watch and it can take varying lengths of time. You are impatient and want him to be happy, but he isn't ready yet for the change - and he may need to do it in a very different way to the one you want. Incubation is an important time and one that precedes fast action - once he is clear and convinced, he will be able to move quickly.

Get him a copy of The Psychology of Success and read together about incubation. Use this as a spur to a discussion about what he needs from you and the best way to support him. Talk about your belief that he can do really well, but don't force him to your pace. You could learn a lot that will help your relationship in all sorts of ways. Stick with him and tell the truth as you see it - just don't force it down his throat. As soon as he is ready he will move, whatever the financial climate

Good luck!